donjones Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Hi, I was with my girlfriend for 1 year. We had some great times together but also some bad times. Throughout the relationship I always wondered whether she was 'the one' and I feel that stopped me giving it a real chance. I'm fairly passive and when she did things that annoyed me sometimes I let them go rather than causing an argument. But I was happy with her so stayed in the relationship. Then towards the end there were more and more 'red fags' appearing, for example, she revealed she had cheated on a previous boyfriend for 3 years. I was shocked but decided to stay with her as it was in the past. The final month we were together was bad...(e.g. we had an argument and she punched me in the face)...and then a couple of other incidents. So I ended it - the punch etc was more a trigger for the breakup than the reason as we could have worked through that. The thing is she was otherwise a sweet girl. And the reason I ended things was more to do with my doubts over the relationship than the final month. We're now 2 months on and I can't stop thinking about her and wondering whether things would have been different if I'd been more open an communicated more earlier in the relationship. I guess I'm asking whether I'm crazy for thinking about her so much and whether I should ask her to get back together or just move on. I do still love her.
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