joebob83 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 I'm a bit desperate for serious advice, thanks much in advance for reading, cuz to get the full picture takes a bit of explaining. I'm in college, I've known this girl for about a year now, casually. We met in a class and Facebooked each other, had nice conversations when we ran into each other, but never hung out or anything. I didn't pursue her because I honestly thought I didn't stand a chance; she's so out of my league. Now we randomly have another random class together, by chance. First she sat by me, then I sat by her a few times. We converse really well, and chat b4 class. I didn't have any serious romantic thoughts at first, because, again, out of my league. But I realized I probably would get a hopeless crush if I continued this, so I tried not sitting next to her, honest. I started small, sat a row in front of her. She kept talking to me anyway. And poked my head. The next day I came in the other door, sat where she couldn't see me. BUT the day after, she waved me over and said she saved me a seat. The next day, I arrived first and she sat by me herself when she got there. Since then I can't help but be near her. Those details may have seemed pointless but I'm just illustrating how I'm not being a stalker/clinger type, she interacts with me willingly. And it's not because I'm the only person she knows either; it's a huge class, and I've seen her chat up at least two people (guys) in the halls as I walk up. And again, we converse really well. It's easy to talk. We joke and laugh. She smiles a lot. She's not a typical girl (i.e. skank,) in fact to the best of my knowledge she hasn't had a boyfriend in the entire time I've known her, (a year.) I think that says a lot about her character. Plus, she really is super busy with her job and school. But besides the talking/smiling/laughing, I don't get any of the standard/stereotype "she likes you" things; she doesn't touch my arm or anything, etc. I casually asked her if she'd like to join me for lunch on campus and got a polite (and probably honest) "I already ate" instead of a "of course, I'd love to." So based on all that, if I asked her to dinner the next time I see her, is there any hope? At all? Is there anything I could do to increase my chances before taking that step? Am I boned? Thanks a lot for any advise.
FrustratedStandards Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 I don't think she is interested. Even if she ate, she would have joined you for your company. I might be wrong, but if she doesn't flirt, chances are she isn't into you.
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