bigboss Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Hi guys I've been with this girl for just under a month now...things are going okay I guess, we have had some ups and downs (for a month old relationship its been abit rocky) but I thought things were fine until my friend, who is my girlfriend's best friend (she hooked us up) told me that she saw her using a dating website (its not this website, I just come here for advice). So after a little digging, I did indeed find her profile and it looks like...she's looking for love!!! Wow was that a shock...I felt so inadequate, I felt like I wasn't enough for her to be looking for other guys...on a dating website no less!! I know she has been using the website even before we met so she probably doesn't wanna throw away all her contacts or whatever, but what do you think is going through her mind? Is she looking for a relationship...has anyone gone through a similar situation?
Art_Critic Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Did you think to ask her about it ? You have only been together less than 30 days.. that isn't even a billing cycle of your cell phone. What exactly are you going thru ? I think you should ask her about it and see what she has to say..
seibert253 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 If your relationship is "Rocky" already after only 30 days, then even without the dating website you should be evaluating if it should continue. As far as her using the website, you'll never know until you ask.
whichwayisup Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Hi guys I've been with this girl for just under a month now...things are going okay I guess, we have had some ups and downs (for a month old relationship its been abit rocky) but I thought things were fine until my friend, who is my girlfriend's best friend (she hooked us up) told me that she saw her using a dating website (its not this website, I just come here for advice). So after a little digging, I did indeed find her profile and it looks like...she's looking for love!!! Wow was that a shock...I felt so inadequate, I felt like I wasn't enough for her to be looking for other guys...on a dating website no less!! I know she has been using the website even before we met so she probably doesn't wanna throw away all her contacts or whatever, but what do you think is going through her mind? Is she looking for a relationship...has anyone gone through a similar situation? Talk to your girlfriend, just ask her if she is happy with you and to please be honest..Then, tell her what HER best friend told you, and that you looked on the website, saw her profile and what it said. Now, is there ANY chance that this 'best friend' is jealous and trying to come between you two? I find it quite odd that HER best friend came to you about that site. Is the bf feeling left out? Not getting enough time with your girlfriend anymore since you two hooked up?
Pierre Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 I believe some of the forum members do that regularly and is called multidating. If she believes in dating more than one guy at a time you may have to accept that or walk away.
Author bigboss Posted October 2, 2011 Author Posted October 2, 2011 Don't worry I just broke up with her so it's all good. Thanks for the replies
Author bigboss Posted October 2, 2011 Author Posted October 2, 2011 She tried to deny it then I just said it's over and she was like okay, which confirms my suspicion that this relationship is all but a sham.
phineas Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 She tried to deny it then I just said it's over and she was like okay, which confirms my suspicion that this relationship is all but a sham. And this is why I follow a new path to a relationship. Until sex, she aint a priority & "just a friend" in my book she can take all the time she wants as I don't push for sex but she needs to know until that happens I don't consider her serious about dating me. Sex from a woman ensures I won't be looking for other women to have sex with. If they manage to behave for a good 6 months they get to meet my kids & then I'll consider it a relationship. I've yet to meet a woman that isn't multi-dating my age & when I make it clear they can see other's but so will I they fade away. When I make it clear they can hang out with their "guy friends" but I will continue to hang out with "lady friends" they usually fade away. LOL! OP, you gotta keep the playing field level & learn not to get attached to women so easily.
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