amandap Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Hi, this is an update really of whats been going on with my ex, as ive already posted we broke up after 10 yrs living together, we had our ups and downs but were totally in love, UNTIL we has a big row 3 months ago and we both said some terrible things, before i continue i will say one big factor i think in all this, what i mean by all this is our break up, you see his 20 yrs old son who came back into his life after not seeing him for 10 yrs, his son lived with us until christmas then moved in with a new girlfriend, he told my ex his dad that he was just staying there as she would look after him, ( as when he was with us he did cause problems, he wont work and wanted his dad to himself ) so until our breakup i would tell my ex to go and spend as much times as he could getting to know his son, which he did, anyway after we split up we had no contact for 4 weeks then he started calling me once a week which he is still doing, my last chat with him was today, he has been really nice buying me little things and wanting to take me places, if i feel low and txt him he will call me right away and spend over an hour chatting to me, its like today i told him a had a real bad headach in the week and he said oh ive got some really good painkillers do you want me to bring them to you,i did say no but thank you ,so today i did ask him how he felt about me, he said he still loved and misses me and i will always be the love of his life, he went on to say he doesnt want a relationship with anyone else, i told him that if all he wants is to be friends then i cant do it as i would find it impossible to move on, he replied i would hate it if you ever loved someone more than you do me, and he said he still wants me in his life, do you think that he just wants to be free to be with his son or does he just want me there for a back up, or is he truely mixed up, i told him to let me know next week because if he just wants to be friends i am going no contact, as being in weekly contact hasnt given him chance to truely miss me, i do need some advise, should i just go NC and move on,,, please help me
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 When your "20yo son" hasn't seen you for 10 years... it's on YOU, and not the fault of some other, mysterious force. If you use that alone to gauge the worth of your ex, then you're clearly better off leaving him in your past.
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