lonelynyc Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Despite all of the advice from everyone on LS and in my life, I kept up communication with someone who has absolutely no regard for how I feel. Like the lunatic I am, I snapped today due to her hot/cold treatment of me in recent days. I called her, 8 times, basically got told to go to hell. Which I probably deserved. No matter what she says to me or I say to her, it's not going to change the fact that the relationship has been and will continue to be over. I'm not content with the way things are because I want her back. She will never want me back. Case closed. It's time for me to rebuild my life, and it can't include her anymore. Sometimes you just have to be ok with being lonely. I need to embrace my LS nickname, because it's something I need to get used to.
Kilty Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Hooray You really want her back after how she has treated you ? Seriously ? What about the new girl ? Spend time with her man - she clearly likes you. And FFS do not mention the ex !
PositiveNegative Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Lonely, That first date you went on sounded pretty good, a peck on the lips? If I were you I would ecstatic about that! Focus your energy on that if you can, I wish I were in your position. I've yet to meet a girl that I could even consider dating so the fact that you went on one and it ended pretty well is a very good thing in my opinion. Regarding those post BU "lunatic" moments, I've been there. Getting that ridiculous rush and acting on it instead of thinking rationally. It sucks. The first night of the BU I called my ex like 30 times and texted her 20. A few weeks later she told me she was working so I waited for her after work when she specifically told me not to go to her work. It's the worst doing that because you try and think about the times when they would've done anything for you, and it makes you wonder how they can be cold now. Well, live and learn I guess, got to learn how to love yourself before you can really love another.
geegirl Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Some have to hit rock bottom to swim up. You just hit. Nowhere but up. I guess you needed that to finally let go. Hope you stick to NC this time.
ken_25 Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Chalk it up to experience, you now know what must be done. We're here for ya.
Author lonelynyc Posted October 2, 2011 Author Posted October 2, 2011 I feel calm now, actually. It's almost a relief knowing that contact with my ex is not an option. I don't have to wait for calls/texts that never come. I won't be indulging myself constantly anymore with pity parties. A lot of life is just loss, and I should know that better than anyone. But there are also things to look forward to. I want to be more of a supportive poster on LS now, just sharing hope and solidarity with other people experiencing a tough time with the end of their relationship. I did hit rock bottom, and it was due to self-indulgence, narcissism and impulsivity. Heartbreak is really just a combination of all of these things, with little sprinklings of more benign stuff.
shoulditrust Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Hey, i and my gf is in the cooling off period, but i still do msn and msg her. BUt call seldom. I just told them how we fall in love and all the common understanding and likings we have. and also places that we have went and was happy. I did not rush for ans, becuz we got into a cool period as she was very dissapointed with some of my mistakes that i have done that cause her to have no feelings for me, and she suddenly had a crush for a korean guy :S thats what she told me...
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