9Lives Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 How did you know when it was time to stop dating a particular person that you really liked? You want to be with that person but they are not giving you enough attention and time. It's like I know he is attracted to me but ...it's something. When and how did you do it? I really need feedback. It will be 3months on oct 7th.
january2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 You don't until you talk to them first and get their side of the situation. Have you?
Author 9Lives Posted October 1, 2011 Author Posted October 1, 2011 Also he tells me all the time that he thinks I'm pretty and is very affectionate when we are together.
Author 9Lives Posted October 1, 2011 Author Posted October 1, 2011 You don't until you talk to them first and get their side of the situation. Have you? I have and he told me that he has alot going on at work but he never spends the weekend with me January. I feel like he is involved with someone else as well. we are not together as a couple.
january2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 If it's a temporary situation and work will ease up at some point then you have to decide if you're willing to wait. But it's worth remembering that it's the beginning of the relationship, when people usually make the most effort and put on their best 'performance'. Which suggests that whenever life gets in the way for him, he's not going to prioritise you. I'm guessing that you're not okay with that. Life is too short to spend with someone who doesn't make you happy and you have a choice to walk away.
Author 9Lives Posted October 1, 2011 Author Posted October 1, 2011 If it's a temporary situation and work will ease up at some point then you have to decide if you're willing to wait. But it's worth remembering that it's the beginning of the relationship, when people usually make the most effort and put on their best 'performance'. Which suggests that whenever life gets in the way for him, he's not going to prioritise you. I'm guessing that you're not okay with that. Life is too short to spend with someone who doesn't make you happy and you have a choice to walk away. January, your a great voice of reason even when I don't agree with you. In this case your right. I don't like the way I'm being treated but I still like him. I wanted to get to know him better but like I said I'm not getting enough time and attention and I'm not going to be happy with that. The last time I heard from him was fri via text at around 4. Not a word today. If I dont hear from him tomorrow, I'm throwing in the towel. I want to ignore him like he does me. He says he don't ignore me but I feel ignored on the weekends and some evenings.
january2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Perhaps his life really is that busy and he doesn't have time to think about you. I think that you need to get busy too so that you don't have time to think about him. As you know, we all have individual breaking points and you'll know when he's hit yours. Wish you luck, whatever the outcome.
Author 9Lives Posted October 1, 2011 Author Posted October 1, 2011 Perhaps his life really is that busy and he doesn't have time to think about you. I think that you need to get busy too so that you don't have time to think about him. As you know, we all have individual breaking points and you'll know when he's hit yours. Wish you luck, whatever the outcome. I am busy. I date a lot but I like him the most. But this ain't gonna work. So when he texts me Monday, how should I handle it? I don't want him to think he can vanish for a couple of days and we just pick up where we left off cause HE is ready to communicate again.
january2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Tell him exactly what you've written here. You like him but it's not going to work because you want to spend more time together than he's got available. You could leave it open by adding that he can contact you when his schedule frees up. But I wouldn't wait for that to happen. Besides, you've got other prospects. It's just unfortunate that you happen to like him the most. But if he's not going to meet you halfway, then you know it's not going to be anything other than short-term.
Author 9Lives Posted October 1, 2011 Author Posted October 1, 2011 Tell him exactly what you've written here. You like him but it's not going to work because you want to spend more time together than he's got available. You could leave it open by adding that he can contact you when his schedule frees up. But I wouldn't wait for that to happen. Besides, you've got other prospects. It's just unfortunate that you happen to like him the most. But if he's not going to meet you halfway, then you know it's not going to be anything other than short-term. January, I spoke too soon. He called at 2 but I missed the call. Ugh! But still...I need him to be more available and I'm gonna tell him that.
january2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Okay - I hope he takes it on board and compromises a bit more. Good luck!
Author 9Lives Posted October 1, 2011 Author Posted October 1, 2011 Okay - I hope he takes it on board and compromises a bit more. Good luck! Thanks January! You are so smart!!!!!!!
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