MartinK Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 I'm not really good at introductions so here i go...me and my ex broke up in 2000 (yes it has been a long time ago), we dated for about 6 months (i don't know if it matters but i was her first) and then she broke up with me because most of the time i acted like a jerk. The thing is b4 her i was in a 1 year relationship and she cheated on me, so i thought she would do the same thing. Also i was only single for 2 weeks in between those 2 relationships. So to man up i do admit that it was my fault why she broke up with me, we stay in touch (I call her every blue moon). And now i need advice, how can i get her back, i know things would be much better now because i became a better man and i am not that jerk i was back then. I do still love and care for her, and there are days that i think about her, how she is doing and if everything is ok. Last time we spoke she was with someone (that was over 1 year ago), she couldn't talk for long but said for me to call back and said she was sorry about the short conversation. I am not really good at expressing feelings and emotions to girls, so maybe you guys could give me some good pointers on how to go about it, I really want her to know how i feel about her and not keep it inside. Also is it strange or pathetic to love someone for such a long time, some people told me it is not, what do you guys think. Also we almost got back together but i didn't call after for a while and when i did she was already with someone, i guess she got tired of waiting for me well that is the whole story, oohhh and not to sound like a stalker but out of all the girls i have dated she is the only one i ever felt about like that
thehead Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Spend a couple of days writing down what you want to express. Wait until it's thought through, and everything is there. Read it a few times and make sure it's clear. I can't tell you what to write, except that it should be completely honest and not manipulative. Lay it on the line because you may not get a second chance. Own up to being a jerk and explain how you've changed. Apologize. Also acknowledge she may have moved on and accept it if she has. These things don't always have a happy ending so if she shows no interest in getting back together, take it like a man and bow out gracefully. Leave her with a good impression of how you are now, so she doesn't remember you as the jerk you once were.
TBH Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 as thehead said, just be honest. tell her how you feel and tell her it was all your fault. if she's interested you'd better not be so flakey again with not calling and such. if she gives you a chance i would take that as a one time only opportunity and really make the effort.
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