orlaith_x Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 I've been seeing a guy for a couple of months and things are good. I just feel so available to him all the time because of texting, like we speak throughout the day and it doesn't give us a chance to properly miss eachother. If I don't respond to a text he takes it as in I'm ignoring him but it's not that I don't want to speak to him. I think it'd be better with only speaking maybe once a day or every other day with a phone call as a quick catch up and then have plans to see eachother a couple of times during the week too. I do have my own life and spend time with friends, work, have hobbies. I also feel that because we text all the time when we do see each other it's not as good because we've already spoke about everything we've been doing so conversations aren't as exciting. And he doesn't make as much effort to see me as I would like him to, but maybe this is because we talk so often it's acting as a replacement for face to face conversation which I don't want to happen! What do you guys think about texting in your relationships? Do you text all the time? I'm 19 and everyone I know texts their boyfriends/girlfriends throughout the day it seems like the normal thing to do now. Maybe I'm being a little old fashioned I dunno..
thehead Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Texting can really suck when you're expected to love it as much as your gf/bf. My last gf wanted to text throughtout the day. I felt guilty that I didn't. Thankfully, work, activities, friends, gave me a legitimate excuse to slow the flow, and she understood. Short answer: I understand where you're coming from OP.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 I think you're a wise 19 yrs old. It's not really healthy to be so dependent on instant reinforcement of affections through technology like that. We have to be good with ourselves and can't find that if we're always on the hook. Text is OK in small doses and to communicate issues like maybe being late for a rendezvous. Explain to him just what you feel and sell him on the benefits of "less is more". Good luck.
Nexus One Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 A relationship where texting is the main form of communication doesn't appeal to me. I'm of the opinion that partners would do better if they save what they have to say until they see each other in person. Sure a few texts here and there is ok, but when it comes to the point that you both don't have anything to talk about anymore once you see each other, then that's really pushing it. I see face to face time as quality time.
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