lisalou218 Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 My ex boyfriend and I dated for 7 months. We had talked about moving in together but he didn't want to get that serious yet so just continued to date. Then about 3 weeks ago we started fighting a lot. I told him I didn't want to lose him but that maybe we should take a break and be friends. He said he wanted to be with me and we continued to go out and try to work it out. The fighting was over a girl that rents a room in the same house he lives in. He was giving her rides and doing favors for her and spending less time with me. He called every night and then suddenly started complaining that I never call him and he would skip days without calling. Then he would call me the next morning from work. About a week ago, he called me and said he was coming over so we could talk. He broke up with me and said he thought he couldn't make me happy. We were both crying. A week later I broke the NC rule because I was so confused about how he could just end it so suddenly. He was in the car with the roommate girl from his house, but he said he was alone. I could tell he was lying so I went to his house. When he drove up, they got out of the car together. They were dressed up like they had been on a date. He was angry that I was there and told me to leave. He told me nothing was going on between them, but that we were no longer together and he can do what he wants. She was trying to interfere with our conversation so I just left. Then he texted me the next day to see how I was doing. Then he called the following day to see if he could come by and see my children. I have two young children and he likes them very much. We have taken them out to do things together. He saw them about 3-4 times a month. I told him he could see them later that night even though I was nervous about seeing him again. He invited us to go out and asked if his girlfriend could come along. I agreed but I was shocked. I didn't want to disappoint my children but I thought that it was really awkward, since I still have feelings for him. She told me they had only been dating for a few days, but I don't believe them. She texted me from his phone the next day to tell me that they were very happy together and to leave them alone. He called later and apologized, saying she got into his phone without his knowledge. It's a weird mess, but my big question is why he keeps contacting me. He said when he broke up that he wanted to be friends with me and still see the kids. He's not their father, and he didn't raise them. I can't help but wonder what his motives are. He even told me he didn't want to bring the new girlfriend that night but she insisted on going because she is jealous of me. I am very confused. I feel like a bad person if I don't agree to let him have a relationship with my children, but I don't want them around her. She has already shown me she doesn't want me around him and she will go to any length to stop him from any contact with me. I haven't heard from him now in almost a week. Please tell me what you think is really going on here?
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