LoveandSuch Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Aghhhhh! Just when I started to feel comfortable and thinking it would be nice to meet a nice sweet genuine man, a Big Bad Wolf comes sweeping in, and what makes it bad he is a gorgeous, sexy, ooozes sex apeal(most mysterious, and interesting man I have met, period in my area), and will be oh so bad for me! So, do you do something you know is going to be a heck of a ride or lose out on excitement by remaining logical, with the possibly of having remorse down the road for not at least taking that a chance, a ride?
eatNrM Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Aghhhhh! Just when I started to feel comfortable and thinking it would be nice to meet a nice sweet genuine man, a Big Bad Wolf comes sweeping in, and what makes it bad he is a gorgeous, sexy, ooozes sex apeal(most mysterious, and interesting man I have met, period in my area), and will be oh so bad for me! So, do you do something you know is going to be a heck of a ride or lose out on excitement by remaining logical, with the possibly of having remorse down the road for not at least taking that a chance, a ride? Well this sounds like a situation of being pumped and eventually dumped. It seems like you know the end game already before it starts. If that's ok with you then hey, what's stopping ya?
thehead Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Aghhhhh! Just when I started to feel comfortable and thinking it would be nice to meet a nice sweet genuine man, a Big Bad Wolf comes sweeping in, and what makes it bad he is a gorgeous, sexy, ooozes sex apeal(most mysterious, and interesting man I have met, period in my area), and will be oh so bad for me! So, do you do something you know is going to be a heck of a ride or lose out on excitement by remaining logical, with the possibly of having remorse down the road for not at least taking that a chance, a ride? I used to just go for the ride. Now, I remain logical but it's easier to do that mainly because of all those past experiences. In other words, I got a lot of thrill rides out of my systems. Maybe you need to also.
january2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 It's up to you. Go for it if you want the adventure. But make sure you play safe and make it short so that the experience is memorable but it doesn't take the rest of your life to deal with the fallout. Or don't go for it. Better to be safe than sorry, right?
Nexus One Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 At the end of the fairy tale the big bad wolf swallows the little girl. Just saying.
LadyWriter Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Well this sounds like a situation of being pumped and eventually dumped. At the end of the fairy tale the big bad wolf swallows the little girl. Just saying. I agree with these guys. I was in a similar situation a little over a year ago. My heart wanted the good guy but my ego wanted the bad boy. (Sad, but true.) Guess which one I chose? The wolf was totally awesome.....for a little while. While everything is great and he makes you feel like you finally got everything you ever wanted, you let yourself think that maybe you could be the one to tame him and only be yours. By the time you realize you can't, it's too late. You've become attached and end up hurt in the end when he goes looking for the next "victim." Bad thing is, he's the kind that has the power to reel you back in with all that charm. Lesson learned - I should have stuck to my guns and persued what I knew my heart really wanted. Did I have fun with the wolf? Of course, but the heartbreak that came at the end was too much and I ended up wishing I had never met him. However, if you can seperate the fun from the emotion, then why not indulge a little? IMO, if you really want something meaningful, I wouldn't let the good guy pass me by.
ShannonMI Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Aghhhhh! Just when I started to feel comfortable and thinking it would be nice to meet a nice sweet genuine man, a Big Bad Wolf comes sweeping in, and what makes it bad he is a gorgeous, sexy, ooozes sex apeal(most mysterious, and interesting man I have met, period in my area), and will be oh so bad for me! So, do you do something you know is going to be a heck of a ride or lose out on excitement by remaining logical, with the possibly of having remorse down the road for not at least taking that a chance, a ride? Is having a no strings attached fling with Mr. Wolf possible? You can have some fun and still keep your distance so you don't get hurt. Some girls can do that. Are you that type or do you fall for men easily?
Author LoveandSuch Posted October 1, 2011 Author Posted October 1, 2011 I agree with these guys. I was in a similar situation a little over a year ago. My heart wanted the good guy but my ego wanted the bad boy. (Sad, but true.) Guess which one I chose? The wolf was totally awesome.....for a little while. While everything is great and he makes you feel like you finally got everything you ever wanted, you let yourself think that maybe you could be the one to tame him and only be yours. By the time you realize you can't, it's too late. You've become attached and end up hurt in the end when he goes looking for the next "victim." Bad thing is, he's the kind that has the power to reel you back in with all that charm. Lesson learned - I should have stuck to my guns and persued what I knew my heart really wanted. Did I have fun with the wolf? Of course, but the heartbreak that came at the end was too much and I ended up wishing I had never met him. However, if you can seperate the fun from the emotion, then why not indulge a little? IMO, if you really want something meaningful, I wouldn't let the good guy pass me by. This would be exactly the tale! And even knowing this, and being somewhat level headed it is hard not to be taken in by the charm! The problem is the good guys do not always bite and the bad boys do.
Author LoveandSuch Posted October 1, 2011 Author Posted October 1, 2011 Is having a no strings attached fling with Mr. Wolf possible? You can have some fun and still keep your distance so you don't get hurt. Some girls can do that. Are you that type or do you fall for men easily? I think I might be able to somewhat, keep emotions out. In the past all dates led to LTR, never just played the field. So maybe I just need to play the field more instead of seriously dating after a date like in the past. I believe I had a 5 month period in life without a boyfriend or serious relationship, and it was fun! But it is hard for me...women to keep emotions at bay, right?
Imajerk17 Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Well LoveAndSuch, you come across as somewhere between impulsive and flighty. Maybe the two of you are made for each other!
Author LoveandSuch Posted October 1, 2011 Author Posted October 1, 2011 It's up to you. Go for it if you want the adventure. But make sure you play safe and make it short so that the experience is memorable but it doesn't take the rest of your life to deal with the fallout. Or don't go for it. Better to be safe than sorry, right? Good advice, I am going to just go with the flow. I may not even step near this trap. Definitely slow moving forward!
ShannonMI Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 I think I might be able to somewhat, keep emotions out. In the past all dates led to LTR, never just played the field. So maybe I just need to play the field more instead of seriously dating after a date like in the past. I believe I had a 5 month period in life without a boyfriend or serious relationship, and it was fun! But it is hard for me...women to keep emotions at bay, right? Yeah I hear you. I'm the type of girl that falls for a guy easily. Especially if I'm intimate with him. It still would be tempting to be with a bad boy. Knowing how sh*tty it feels to be hurt, I would steer clear of this guy personally. But if you can have some fun without letting those pesky feelings in, then go for it
Author LoveandSuch Posted October 1, 2011 Author Posted October 1, 2011 Well LoveAndSuch, you come across as somewhere between impulsive and flighty. Maybe the two of you are made for each other! Thank you! Lol. It is like the George Clooney scenerio, they know to stay away, but end up dipping anyways and look what happens.... Why can't good guys be charming dammit...!
Woggle Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 If you know what will happen then stay away. If you wrap up crap in a pretty package it is still crap. This knows what he is doing and once he has you hooked he will use you at will. Think of him as the used care salesman of the dating world.
Imajerk17 Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Thank you! Lol. It is like the George Clooney scenerio, they know to stay away, but end up dipping anyways and look what happens.... Why can't good guys be charming dammit...! Well, I'm not sure being called emotional or flighty really is a compliment, but if that was how you took it....
Author LoveandSuch Posted October 1, 2011 Author Posted October 1, 2011 Well, I'm not sure being called emotional or flighty really is a compliment, but if that was how you took it.... I was kidding! Well, have gone a little boy crazy lately and have seen interest from several potential prospects, but this is the first to be so bold. I might just put the interest on the backburner and let it simmer awhile before jumping the gun and being burned. It is like having the devil on one shoulder and an angel on the other in these situations!
DirtyDancing Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Mr. bad wolf present. Why don't you do what women do? have fun with bad wolves and then you date a calm, stable, dependent young man? There are plenty of white knights to go around. I would really love to know where to find these white knights!!! The good ones are so much harder to come across, and get to "bite" as someone said earlier. I'd like to think that the good ones are worth the wait because they don't come easy.
Imajerk17 Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 I was kidding! Well, have gone a little boy crazy lately and have seen interest from several potential prospects, but this is the first to be so bold. I might just put the interest on the backburner and let it simmer awhile before jumping the gun and being burned. It is like having the devil on one shoulder and an angel on the other in these situations! So why exactly is this guy such a Big Bad Wolf? He unemployed? In trouble with the law? Substance abuse? Fathered 20 kids with 15 mothers??
Woggle Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 I would really love to know where to find these white knights!!! The good ones are so much harder to come across, and get to "bite" as someone said earlier. I'd like to think that the good ones are worth the wait because they don't come easy. There are plenty if a woman knows where to look. What does it mean to get them to bite anyway?
Author LoveandSuch Posted October 1, 2011 Author Posted October 1, 2011 So why exactly is this guy such a Big Bad Wolf? He unemployed? In trouble with the law? Substance abuse? Fathered 20 kids with 15 mothers?? Ughhhh Yuck no!!! More like a Mr. Big type characte/George Clooney! Moreso womanizer bad boys not prisoners...lol Do not go for losers.
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