neowulf Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 So, I've reached a bit of an impasse with my dating situation. I've been single for the past 6 months and pretty much been fine with that. However, I'm turning 33 in a couple of months and I'm starting to think a "wait and see" approach might not be the most ideal way of moving forward. The problem is, I'm kind of happy being single right now. So this leads me to just do my own thing, a lot of which is pretty non-social. This of course isn't a great way to go about meeting women. I'm thinking the best bet would be to try and chase down some hobbies, but work is thrashing me right now and money is a little tight. I suppose my question is.. Do you actively go "looking" for a relationship? Jump on dating sites, attend speed dating events, go on singles holidays? Or do you kind of go about your life and hope that chance will step in at some point to provide you a partner. When I was younger, the second option worked pretty well, but as I get older, I'm finding the opportunities to meet potential new partners are drying up. Thoughts?
The Outlaw Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 I work alot to, and don't get out much. But I'd kind of like to see chance just drop someone in my life-but that's not the way to go about it. If you're happy being single, stay that way for awhile. Then go out and socialize, say, try a language class or do volunteer work. That's the advice that was given to me, and it's more than worth a shot if you feel you can meet someone out of it. Good luck
Holt Driver Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 For a variety of different reasons my head isn't in the game either. I've taken myself off the market for the last year, and I'm quite happy with things as they are. Sometimes I feel a bit lonely and would like to have someone special in my life, but most of the time I'm not pining away. If your head truly isn't in the game, don't force yourself to go out there and look for a relationship. Ultimately it won't be fair to anyone you meet should you not be fully committed to the relationship. Just live your life, socialize when you can, and let fate take control. If/when you're ready the dating sites will still be there with lots of prospects!
january2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 I dabbled in online dating but I was happier doing things that involved meeting people of all kinds rather than specifically single men. I think it's different for guys though. If you take on a more passive role and stop approaching women then things are likely to dry up unless you frequent places where women are more proactive about making the initial approach. As you get older, things do change, people pair up and start having families and you have to be even more proactive, whether you are male or female. However, the divorced/separated/late bloomer/recovering careerist dating pool then comes into play. Having said that, you don't have to date if your "head isn't in the game." If your heart's really not in it then you're probably not doing yourself any favours with half-hearted efforts.
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