lonelynyc Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 I decided to ask the girl I knew from college out on a date yesterday. I texted her (our primary means of communicating) and she seemed pretty excited. I am too. Actually a little nervous, I had a crush on her before I even met my ex. She's very pretty, and extremely upbeat... which will be a newish experience for me. I have often gravitated towards more negative women (even if they concealed it relatively well). We're going out to dinner, which I'm thinking now might be too serious (as opposed to coffee) but, what's the worst that could happen? I don't feel guilty about doing this while I still love my ex because at this point, I'm not sure if it's more pure love or obsession. I need to get out, and I need to see that there are other women out there. Possibly better matches for me too. Sitting at home posting here incessantly and torturing myself is no longer healthy. Do you guys think this is a good move on my part?
wilsonx Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Yup, just careful obsessing. It will kill you and get you into a lot of trouble. Go in it expecting nothing but friendship and fun. Take your time and enjoy the night
KathyM Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 I decided to ask the girl I knew from college out on a date yesterday. I texted her (our primary means of communicating) and she seemed pretty excited. I am too. Actually a little nervous, I had a crush on her before I even met my ex. She's very pretty, and extremely upbeat... which will be a newish experience for me. I have often gravitated towards more negative women (even if they concealed it relatively well). We're going out to dinner, which I'm thinking now might be too serious (as opposed to coffee) but, what's the worst that could happen? I don't feel guilty about doing this while I still love my ex because at this point, I'm not sure if it's more pure love or obsession. I need to get out, and I need to see that there are other women out there. Possibly better matches for me too. Sitting at home posting here incessantly and torturing myself is no longer healthy. Do you guys think this is a good move on my part? Yes, good move. Good for you for taking the initiave and taking the chance. Dinner sounds like a good plan. I hope it's to some place interesting, and not your typical chain restaurant. Doesn't have to be expensive, just nice, but not too nice, if you know what I mean. You don't want to appear like you're trying too hard to impress her.
Author lonelynyc Posted September 30, 2011 Author Posted September 30, 2011 Yup, just careful obsessing. It will kill you and get you into a lot of trouble. Go in it expecting nothing but friendship and fun. Take your time and enjoy the night That's exactly what I'm looking for. A fun, friendly night. I know that forcing myself into a new relationship would only cause me to drift further into despair.
Author lonelynyc Posted September 30, 2011 Author Posted September 30, 2011 Yes, good move. Good for you for taking the initiave and taking the chance. Dinner sounds like a good plan. I hope it's to some place interesting, and not your typical chain restaurant. Doesn't have to be expensive, just nice, but not too nice, if you know what I mean. You don't want to appear like you're trying too hard to impress her. Definitely not trying too hard for this date (no flowers or anything). She actually recommended a hole-in-the-wall Ethiopian place near where we went to school (she's Ethiopian). I'm excited, have never tried it before.
KathyM Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Definitely not trying too hard for this date (no flowers or anything). She actually recommended a hole-in-the-wall Ethiopian place near where we went to school (she's Ethiopian). I'm excited, have never tried it before. That sounds good. I hope it goes well for you.
immitable Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Good move, have fun I will do the same soon I hope..
geegirl Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 If you're looking forward to it, then I think it's a good thing! No expectations, just a nice night out with good company. Keep it light, no talk of heartbreak or exs, focus on the good stuff and I'm sure you will have a great time.
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