Helda Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 (edited) Hello I posted a while ago as my boyfriend was way too friendly with his ex. Anyway he dumped me but to my knowledge he didn't go back to her. I moved on and set up an online dating profile. Met a few men,nothing special, THEN I started speaking to this cute guy on the phone each day. He sounded fun, intelligent, etc etc etc and his voice sounded lovely. His pictures were OK- not my type but as we clicked I thought I could grow to like him like that. Anyway we met and I realised his photos must be about ten years old. He had gray hair (his photos showed him with dark brown hair) His gray hair really ages him and I just can't get over it. He's only 36 so has become gray early and I wish I could see past this as we get on so well. Is or has anyone been out with a man with prematurely gray hair? Did people assume you were dating an 'older' man? Edited September 30, 2011 by Helda
coolheadal Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Hello I posted a while ago as my boyfriend was way too friendly with his ex. Anyway he dumped me but to my knowledge he didn't go back to her. I moved on and set up an online dating profile. Met a few men,nothing special, THEN I started speaking to this cute guy on the phone each day. He sounded fun, intelligent, etc etc etc and his voice sounded lovely. His pictures were OK- not my type but as we clicked I thought I could grow to like him like that. Anyway we met and I realised his photos must be about ten years old. He had gray hair (his photos showed him with dark brown hair) His gray hair really ages him and I just can't get over it. He's only 36 so has become gray early and I wish I could see past this as we get on so well. Is or has anyone been out with a man with prematurely gray hair? Did people assume you were dating an 'older' man? It's called He needs to color his hair so you don't know he's has gray hair. I guess he didn't think of it. Also his genes makes him gray early. I had this guy in my High School who was only 16 and he had his hair gray. So no matter what that gray can come up on you. Why are you basing you fondness on his gray hair. Like I said he can color it and you and him can be happy together for 3 to 4 months before the gray comes up again. Just have to help him color his hair so he can look young for you again!
KathyM Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Hello I posted a while ago as my boyfriend was way too friendly with his ex. Anyway he dumped me but to my knowledge he didn't go back to her. I moved on and set up an online dating profile. Met a few men,nothing special, THEN I started speaking to this cute guy on the phone each day. He sounded fun, intelligent, etc etc etc and his voice sounded lovely. His pictures were OK- not my type but as we clicked I thought I could grow to like him like that. Anyway we met and I realised his photos must be about ten years old. He had gray hair (his photos showed him with dark brown hair) His gray hair really ages him and I just can't get over it. He's only 36 so has become gray early and I wish I could see past this as we get on so well. Is or has anyone been out with a man with prematurely gray hair? Did people assume you were dating an 'older' man? My sister's 2nd husband had grey hair and she asked him to use hair coloring products for men that you can buy over the counter. It really did help. He looked his age when he used that. Otherwise, he was grey and much older looking than her. If that's the only thing that's a deal breaker with him, I would suggest waiting for the relationship to progress a bit, and then broach the subject. You could say you really thought those pictures of him that he sent you were attractive, and you were wondering if he'd consider using a product to give him that youthful look, because you like it so much.
FitChick Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 I dated a guy who had mostly salt & pepper hair at the age of 28. He said he started going gray in high school. It didn't bother me because I like gray hair. What is more important to me is the fact a man HAS hair, not what color it is. Quite a challenge finding non-bald men as you get older.
Am4Real Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 What a ridiculous post...honestly, you were fulled by an online dating post. Really...never heard of that before!
anne1707 Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 To me, the grey hair is not an issue at all. It can look very attractive. However what I would be bothered about is someone using a photo that is 10 years old and is therefore not an honest representation of them self.
january2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Are you sure his pictures are that old? He could have dyed his hair in those photos and just forgot to dye his hair again after his last haircut. I think that it might be worth asking when the photos were taken. I hope that he isn't naive enough to think that you wouldn't notice the disparity.
grkBoy Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 I'm 38 and I color my hair. I'll go from 38 to 25 instantly when I do. I love it...not ready yet to look "older". I don't agree that women find the "salt and pepper" attractive, because I have yet to see women around my age date guys with that. Helda, if you really like this guy, then take a chance and tell him the truth. Tell him how his photos misled you and ask what he thinks about coloring his hair. If he won't do it, and you can't get past this, then dump him. I will not call you shallow in this case because he didn't put an honest image of himself up in the first place. Frankly, if he wants to post old photos so women won't think he looks "old", then he should color his hair and go all the way with it.
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