I ultimately lost her because of my insecurities...how do I not let it happen again..

[ls32ssibm]

Sorry for any errors, I haven't been sleeping a lot recently.

 

 

I can be pretty insecure which is a huge turn off, I know.

 

I constantly wonder if they are out of my league,

 

I hint around if I was better than their exes at this, that, if I'm the best looking, etc.

 

I get crazy jealous if they mention their ex.

 

 

Basically I just want to be normal and not drive another away.

[antz2411]

dood, can you honestly look at the mirror and smile at the person you're looking at? if not you got some serious f'n issues lol

[january2011]

It seems that you believe there's a gap between you and 'them'. So work on yourself and close the gap. Before you get into another relationship.

[Cowboy1015]

Then do not be insecure.

You are responsible for your own happiness, NOT your partner.

You got to be independent.

You got to let your partner be independent to.

[geegirl]

You have to start realizing your value. If you don't value yourself or love yourself, then you are always going to feel you have nothing to offer anyone and constantly feel unworthy. If you feel like this in relationships, I have a strong feeling it carries into other areas of your life as well.

 

Sounds like your self-esteem, due to, maybe your childhood, upbringing, bad relationships has taken a huge hit.

 

Have you tried talking to a counselor? Sometimes speaking to someone and having an outsider connect the dots for you as to where the breakdown is in how you view yourself, can help you find ways to improve in those areas.

 

Go to the library and pick up some books on how to work on improving your self-esteem. There are a lot of self-help books that provide exercises that make you think and help you find self-awareness and introspection. Just saying I have insecurities is not enough. Knowing why you have them is key. That will help you work on fixing and reprogramming yourself.

 

What do you like to do that you believe you are good at? Work on those talents and skills. When you accomplish a goal through those skills and talents, you will feel accomplished. Get involved with activities that challenge you, take a class, learn a language, etc.

 

It's like putting pieces of you together. You're broken for some reason or another. You have to work on YOU. Start mending yourself. Through action. You can't just say you have insecurities. You have to dig deep, find the source, and work at reversing that damage.

 

I'd highly suggest a counselor to help you find ways to rebuild yourself again.

 

Sorry for any errors, I haven't been sleeping a lot recently.

 

 

I can be pretty insecure which is a huge turn off, I know.

 

I constantly wonder if they are out of my league,

 

I hint around if I was better than their exes at this, that, if I'm the best looking, etc.

 

I get crazy jealous if they mention their ex.

 

 

Basically I just want to be normal and not drive another away.