fortyninethousand322 Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 This thread was sort of inspired by all those “virginity this, virginity that” threads, iris’ thread about not being interested in anyone for a long time, and Mr.Nate’s (backwards or forwards) thread about not being interested in relationships. I spent most of the spring and summer pretty bummed that I didn’t have a girlfriend, pretty bummed that I couldn’t even seem to be able to get a date. A funny thing happened though in the last month or so. I’ve become completely disinterested in dating, sex, relationships, etc. I mean I still feel like it’s pretty hopeless, and all of that stuff. But, it really doesn’t seem to bother me as it used to. I don’t know if it’s because football season has started, or because I’ve got other things distracting me, but I just don’t have any motivation to go out and try to meet girls and/or ask them out, etc. I don’t even really use my Okcupid account anymore (women don’t write back anyway so it doesn’t matter). I wouldn’t even be interested in casual sex if an attractive woman was interested. The desire just isn’t there. I want it to be, but it isn’t. Anyway, what I think I’d like to know is whether or not this will hurt me in the long run. While I may not be interested in dating right now, I’d be lying if I said that I knew that would always be the case. So I guess my question is if I change my mind in a few years and decide that I do want to start dating, will my prolonged period of singledom/celibacy/avoidance of women be a detriment to me? And I don’t mean only “will women be turned off”, but also “will it affect me personally/psychologically/whatever”? Basically will a prolonged period of not trying/not being interested affect my ability to have the confidence (or whatever) to approach and attract women?
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