laura1991 Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Its been a week since my boyfriend ended our relationship. We had a big argument and he ended it two days later. He has been texting everyday, I am very confused because he Says he isn't going to go out and meet new girls yet and he doesn't Want me to meet new guys. I don't no what this means? Either we're single or we're not? Am confused? I have also done the worst this and we have met up 3 times since Breaking up, I had to get some of my things from his and we've ended up Kissing and cuddling as if nothing has happened! I don't know what to do? Or what he wants? He has said that he can't see us getting back but what's This all about?? Can someone please give me advice my head is wrecked!!
antz2411 Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 he is telling you that he wants to go rail other chicks! but for you to stick arond just incase he gets rejected then he can just rail you until he finally finds one that he can rail then he will leave you in the dust. i suggest you run away and fast!
Author laura1991 Posted September 30, 2011 Author Posted September 30, 2011 Then why is he telling me he misses me aswell? He seems to not know what he wants, I tried the whole no contact thing but he texts everyday, I do trust his word when he says he isn't going to date other girls for a few weeks because he's like me and doesn't want to just jump from a relationship to a new one. But I don't see why he is in contest contact if he doesn't want me
antz2411 Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Then why is he telling me he misses me aswell? He seems to not know what he wants, I tried the whole no contact thing but he texts everyday, I do trust his word when he says he isn't going to date other girls for a few weeks because he's like me and doesn't want to just jump from a relationship to a new one. But I don't see why he is in contest contact if he doesn't want me he tells you he misses you so you can wait in the way side for him while he does what he does. look.. after a few weeks then what? he will start chasing other women? when he does then what are you going to do? cmon - save yourself more hurt and leave. and no you didnt try the whole no contact thing because you didnt ignore his efforts on contacting you. you need to not respond to any contacts that he makes. look im just telling you how i see it, it's really up to you... i just dont want you to be anymore hurt than you already are. i dont want to see you come back here posting another thread in two weeks saying he is with another woman and you are more hurt than ever before.
TheDovic Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Then why is he telling me he misses me aswell? He seems to not know what he wants, I tried the whole no contact thing but he texts everyday, I do trust his word when he says he isn't going to date other girls for a few weeks because he's like me and doesn't want to just jump from a relationship to a new one. But I don't see why he is in contest contact if he doesn't want me It's because when someone dumps their partner they're very rarely 100% certain the relationship is over, especially if you've been together longer than 6 months. He's going to have a lot of emotions running around his head and whilst one minute he thinks he's made the right decision, the next he'll question it. My main point is this however: when someone breaks up with you and you stick around to be there every time they call or want to see you it's much easier for them to move on. He has the freedom of not being in a relationship so if he does find someone new you can't really say anything, and if he doesn't then he has his safety net - YOU! You need to increase your value a bit here. Be a bit less available and start trying to live your own life (this will make you MUCH more attractive to him and increase your chances of getting him back)
Author laura1991 Posted September 30, 2011 Author Posted September 30, 2011 It's because when someone dumps their partner they're very rarely 100% certain the relationship is over, especially if you've been together longer than 6 months. He's going to have a lot of emotions running around his head and whilst one minute he thinks he's made the right decision, the next he'll question it. My main point is this however: when someone breaks up with you and you stick around to be there every time they call or want to see you it's much easier for them to move on. He has the freedom of not being in a relationship so if he does find someone new you can't really say anything, and if he doesn't then he has his safety net - YOU! You need to increase your value a bit here. Be a bit less available and start trying to live your own life (this will make you MUCH more attractive to him and increase your chances of getting him back) I understand completely what u are saying, I don't feel like I'll be left if he meets someone else because I know its not hard to meet a new fella I just don't want to do it yet lol when we first broke up I said to him if he had even thought it through and he said no, he can't handle arguments and takes the easy option! Its mad how things go from being a great to over in a week! I am gona just not bother to much about him for a while at least that will give him his space to decide what he wants to do, I'll concentrate on work and nights out =)
TheDovic Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 I understand completely what u are saying, I don't feel like I'll be left if he meets someone else because I know its not hard to meet a new fella I just don't want to do it yet lol when we first broke up I said to him if he had even thought it through and he said no, he can't handle arguments and takes the easy option! Its mad how things go from being a great to over in a week! I am gona just not bother to much about him for a while at least that will give him his space to decide what he wants to do, I'll concentrate on work and nights out =) Good idea Laura. PS, keep coming on this site when you need advice or need to vent. It's ok to be upset after a breakup and there are a lot of good people here who are willing to help. Good luck
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