Author wilsonx Posted September 30, 2011 Author Posted September 30, 2011 (edited) This is the first time she's contacted you in over 3 months? Or the first time you've responded? I can only guess the "I knew you were..." was if you said you didn't want her to leave in the beginning and seeing you on this site was proof to herself that she was right. Why on earth anyone would go through that kind of trouble to say "gotcha" says they have nothing going on in their life. I havent responded, you have no concept of how badly I want to, its really hard so for those of you that break it for these breadcrumbs, I fell your pain. I am doing everything possible not to break it too. When we broke up back in March or whatever because she did not like how I talked to her. A few days later she came to me and said Im sorry I think I made a mistake and I said ok It was a dumb breakup, this I have learned is whats called emotional manipulation. I take my fair share of the responsibility in this. It was dumb dumb and dumb. This is where I had no personal boundaries. I have one now that says when a relationship is over, its over and thats it. No second chances. Last night I got shot down at the bar. alcohol + testosterone = you guessed it. So I went looking again. I had no ****ing clue she was cyberstalking me 4 months after my breakup with fake email and fake pictures ready to go. Do you see how crazy she is? One of the things that still sits in my head is her seducing me and the very last night it happened after our breakup she said and I quote "You know you cant go on the rest of your life with not talking to me." because I told her that we are done, no friendship, no talking, no more sex, nothing. I was mentally ****ed up and I was still able to cut the strings. As for sleep, not happening now. Edited September 30, 2011 by wilsonx
EgoJoe Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 I'd almost suggest responding with a simple, "Laugh out loud." Yet I don't. Keep your head up, Wilson. You're further ahead in the healing "game" than she is.
lalalandman Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 She's still trying to justify her actions (dumping you) by giving you **** for putting yourself out there. Which is something you're definitely not guilty of, at all. You're single. Dude I went out and got girls after the breakup just like you. The fact that she's still poking around watching you shows that she's still not over you. Actually it's borderline stalking. She needs to get a grip and come to terms that she gave up someone good (you). Or stop being a drama queen. Or both preferably. Keep doing your thing dude. There's no reason why you shouldn't be playing the field. Finder's keepers man. Shine on.
leoc1973 Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 I got a great idea. You should play stupid like you think that she is a real girl but tell her sorry you met someone else that you feel some kind of instant connection or emotional bond with so you won't be able to meet her. Tell her good luck but you think you found a different great connection with someone else. lol I will bet it drives her nuts to think you will be sleeping with someone very soon.
Surfer Girl Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Yep... she still wants to be able to have some kind of control on you...The more you go NC eventually she will give up, knowing she does not have the ability to have that control anymore...
jaymz Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 I'm not quite sure how the second incident is a breadcrumb. She went to a lot of time and effort to get you to respond to an fake dating ad just to yell "gotcha!"? Seem more like she is desperate to have any contact with you. As a previous poster put it "trouble in paradise?"... I think it just proves how truly crazy this woman is. You have done the right thing so far, keep up the no contact. ScienceGal pretty much covers it all, great post. Keep up the good work Wilson, just dont let this affect you finding another girl/friend.
Author wilsonx Posted October 1, 2011 Author Posted October 1, 2011 Oh i know she's crazy.... I now understand where the term borderline crazy comes from It's tough, I have 18 drafts saved ugh Not sending 1
betterdeal Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Leave me alone. I have nothing to say to you.
sun_moon Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Oh i know she's crazy.... I now understand where the term borderline crazy comes from It's tough, I have 18 drafts saved ugh Not sending Well I hope you continue to have the will power to not send. Good luck.
EgoJoe Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Haha, Betterdeal he might do well to say: Yo ho! Sex and travel!
Author wilsonx Posted October 2, 2011 Author Posted October 2, 2011 Haha, Betterdeal he might do well to say: Yo ho! Sex and travel! Actually this is what I have been strongly considering... lol its just under the NC thing =)
EgoJoe Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Some people would say it just shows you care, blah blah. I think that there is a point where disrespect shows that you actually don't care anymore. Personally I would respond with a dignified tell off. Mine has one coming to her the next time she breaks NC yet she wasn't as evil or retarded as your Ex so I'll be withholding a LITTLE BIT. I would not withhold in your case. As an ode to Twitter because I'm in a humorous mood: #lollercakes #dumbho #paperbagsforbroadsllc
Author wilsonx Posted October 2, 2011 Author Posted October 2, 2011 I broke it, I had to... I had so much anger today and I wanted an end to it... Dont give a **** what is black or white right or wrong... This is something I could not bottle up anymore... I told a couple of my friends and they say thats the most psychotic thing they have ever heard... Its true... I have never in my life been disrespected in this way... ----------------------- Dear Psychotic Ex Girlfriend This is the most certifiable thing I have ever encountered in my life. You are stalking your ex boyfriend on a dating website and sending him fake pictures of some other girl. WoW!!! I have never been so angry in my entire life. I did not even know how to respond to this. You have crossed the line of no return. You have burned down that final bridge You have no class, no integrity, nothing. What you did is borderline crazy. Water seeks its own level and I cant believe I was ever down at your level. It actually disgusts me. You are a selfish coward I asked you for my space, now I am demanding it. There will be serious consequences if you fail to follow this Stay the **** out of my life and grow up. Wilson ------------------------ I dont care if she blames me for the breakup **** I welcome it, just so she will leave me the **** alone. I'll be man enough to say, it was a ****ty relationship. I dont have to lay blame, I know my faults in the relationship
EgoJoe Posted October 2, 2011 Posted October 2, 2011 Wilson smash! Raaaaaaahh! I'm not mocking you. I'm with it. You did good now continue moving on as before.
Author wilsonx Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 I actually did not send it... I wanted to tell myself I did so that I could let it go... It was actually therapeutic... definitely a win/win decision, i got to vent my anger and frustration here on the forums to her and she will never know that it did sting and annoy me... NC continues on...
sun_moon Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 glad your vent helped and that you posted it here!
ChelleBelle Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Hi, I am sorry to hear about what has happened to you. I fully understand how you feel. Something similar happened to me a few years ago. I felt so betrayed and upset, that someone I had dated had stalked me under a different ID, email etc., on a dating site. It was so hurtful and then I got really angry. It took me a while to get my confidence back. Fortunately, the next guy I dated is the chap I am with now, so it ended up OK, but I didn't know this at the time. Actually, I did have my 'show down' with him. I broke NC and called him and told him exactly what I thought of him and his despicable behaviour etc. I just felt that I had to defend myself and get everything off my chest. I then never spoke to him or saw him again. After a couple of months I received a text from him, which I duly deleted and never responded to him. Good Riddings to old rubbish. Like someone posted - Sex and Travel
Mar1neOne Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 Oh i know she's crazy.... I now understand where the term borderline crazy comes from It's tough, I have 18 drafts saved ugh Not sending haha... that's awesome!! Go man!
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