maysj18 Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t299956/ That's a little background on the situation. All that happened last weekend and we still hardly talk. While it bothers me because I feel like I'm being rejected, I also see it as being not a big deal at all. I mean, we only met two weeks ago and it's not like an romance has bloomed yet. We haven't kissed or anything, so is it really even possible for me to be rejected? At the same time, we just talked all the time the first few days. He's mentioned to me a lot that he hardly uses his phone, but I really don't know. My question is, should I just ask to make plans this weekend and pretend like I don't feel anything is out of the ordinary or should I take this as a nice way of blowing me off? I would just hate to let something fun go because he thinks I'm not interested.
musemaj11 Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 If he is already going cold, whats the point of asking him out?
Professor X Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 So in essence, you want him because your ego got hurt? i.e. he rejected you, cause like you said, no real bond was made yet. First time someone gave you the cold shoulder treatment ?
Pierre Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t299956/ That's a little background on the situation. All that happened last weekend and we still hardly talk. While it bothers me because I feel like I'm being rejected, I also see it as being not a big deal at all. I mean, we only met two weeks ago and it's not like an romance has bloomed yet. We haven't kissed or anything, so is it really even possible for me to be rejected? At the same time, we just talked all the time the first few days. He's mentioned to me a lot that he hardly uses his phone, but I really don't know. My question is, should I just ask to make plans this weekend and pretend like I don't feel anything is out of the ordinary or should I take this as a nice way of blowing me off? I would just hate to let something fun go because he thinks I'm not interested. Ask him to hang out, but make sure it is not done in a manner that suggest it is not a typical date.
Author maysj18 Posted September 30, 2011 Author Posted September 30, 2011 All i meant by lack of romance is that we just haven't kissed yet. Regardless, I think im going to leave it alone. I asked him if he was going to our friends party on Saturday and he said "I didnt know about it, but you'll be going right?" And i kind of took that as an "if you go, ill go" thing. All I was going to do was send him a flirty text tomorrow about the party, but ill just leave it alone. If he wants to come, hell go considering most of his friends will be there. Good call?
Pierre Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Also, inviting someone to a party is not the same thing as asking them out on a date. Why don't you invite him for a drink or for dinner or anything where it would be just the two of you? That is over the top. She should ask him to go to the party because she will be there. Asking for a formal romantic date is overkill and may end up badly. The early mating game needs to be more subtle.
Author maysj18 Posted October 1, 2011 Author Posted October 1, 2011 No, not a good call. He asked you a question and you didn't respond, which is a sign of either flaky behaviour or you not really being interested. Also, inviting someone to a party is not the same thing as asking them out on a date. Why don't you invite him for a drink or for dinner or anything where it would be just the two of you? I did reply. I told him I definitely would be and he didn't say anything. So, should I send a flirty text or not?
The Outlaw Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Honestly, if he's hardly talking to you, and I'm serious here-why try to ask him out? He could just have something going on, or he may have taken what you said to heart. Best thing you could do is apologize-if you haven't already and see where to go from there. If things go well, cool. Elsewise, move on from him.
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