irc333 Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 There was this woman I actually knew in real life from my circle of friends get togethers and such. Well, I would say last year I saw this woman who had placed a personal ad online. I emailed her saying, "Hey, I know you from Suzie's party, nice to see a familiar face on here for a change." I intro'd into that and talked about myself and asked about her. She replied with, "Yes, I recall seeing you at said event, but I don't think we'd make a good match." Done and done. I have this female married friend that I know really well...she changed out her profile pic, and turns out she had a picture taken with her and THAT girl that I met on the dating site and at a previous event. I IM'ed my married friend saying, "Hey, who is the lovely lady next to you, is she single?" And she said that she was recently single, and could completely see us both dating, because she's kind of the shy, nice girl type. Apparently she thinks we'd be good together....so I asked to put in a good word for me, and she agreed. Of course, regardless of her having said "we'd not make a good match" I figured that having a good reference to back me up would make her reconsider? Watcha think?
carhill Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Stranger things have happened. I will say, for a shy, nice girl type she sure was pretty direct in her rejection of you. Perhaps her friend doesn't know her as well as she thinks.
Author irc333 Posted September 30, 2011 Author Posted September 30, 2011 Stranger things have happened. I will say, for a shy, nice girl type she sure was pretty direct in her rejection of you. Perhaps her friend doesn't know her as well as she thinks. Sure, anyone cannot be shy behind a computer. I figured since people can easily write people off online, that in person (there might be as social gathering of my friend, and said woman) at her house where I was invited. Figured "Hey, at least I'll get some face time with her". Online it's easy to write someone off without at least getting to know them. I even kind of dismissed it...I asked her, "She's very pretty, I was wondering if I'd be swinging out of my league" And she goes, ""No way, my friend's ex was short, overweight and bald" So I thought, "Well, dang, wonder why she rejected me then...well at the gathering we shall wait and see" She said she'll drop my name in her general direction....just to see what kind of response she gets.
carhill Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Well, see how it goes at the event but, IMO, any woman who throws out the 'I don't think we'd make a good match' to general questions about her and not even inviting her on a date would give me pause, regardless of the medium it was expressed by.
Cee Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 I think you handled the situation perfectly by having your friend put in a good word. No harm in trying. At the very least, this woman will be friendlier to you knowing that you have a mutual friend who thinks highly of you.
oaks Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 I think that having her friend 'suggest' or 'recommend' you to her will make her consider whether meeting/dating you has any merit. Are you going to remind her that she's already rejected you online? Or hope that she'll remember? Or hope that she won't remember?
Author irc333 Posted September 30, 2011 Author Posted September 30, 2011 I think that having her friend 'suggest' or 'recommend' you to her will make her consider whether meeting/dating you has any merit. Are you going to remind her that she's already rejected you online? Or hope that she'll remember? Or hope that she won't remember? Actually, I told my friend that she did say , online she thought we were a match, so I made her aware of that.....but I figured that with her at the helm, she might be able to put in a good word....knowing that she knows me, and might be worth knowing. I said I figured I don't see why not give it a 2nd shot, and she agreed, that if she didn't give her husband a second shot, they would not have wound up together. So see, you never know
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