Nadine22 Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 I've been dating this guy for a month (talked on phone 2 months prior to meeting). He started to move quite fast...we see eachother every second day and spend days and nights together. I have met his friends mother etc etc. He seems insecure when I don't want to come over and I sense he worries about trusting me. Long story short - I agreed to date just him and see how things turned out and I have stayed true to that. When other guys call want to date etc...I have not responded. Last night he left his facebook open. I did the unthinkable ...I looked. saw lots of messages from women...so... It was wrong I know. However,I was disturbed to see that one girl who he told me had wanted to visit him and sent naked photo's prior to us meeting - he had been corasponding with him last week...he told her to call him and that they should meet up soon~!!! also there were several other messages. Another girl he wrote to saying he looked forward to seeing in 2 weeks (that was at the beginning of our dating). Hes going away in a few weeks...she lives in another city...that maybe when he planned on meeting her. I told him that I looked at his facebook and that I was wrong. I also told him that I wasn't sure about his conduct and really needed to think about things. I didn't get into the details of what I saw...only that I saw things that made me question how committed I want to be. Please feedback needed...what do I do?? its a new relationship of sorts but he has been the one that wanted me to be totally committed to him ~!!! spending everyday almost together. I sense he is really insecure and afraid I will find someone else that maybe why he's keeping options open. But I closed my options and feel a little betrayed. ..please all feedback welcome.
wolfess Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 It sounds messy I'd get out now before you become more emotionally invested in the relationship. Of course let him try to explain first.
Author Nadine22 Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 yes, it sucks...it would have been find if our dating was casual and we were still just getting to know eachother...however, its gotten more serious with all the time spent...and insecure or not - its going to be tricky to want to commit and trust now.
Paper Roses Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 If I were you, I'd get out now. Men who move too fast always sends me a red flag. Sounds to me as though he wants you to be exclusive with him while he does whatever the hell he wants. Find a nice guy, blow this dude off.
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