Linda9999 Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Maybe it's our guilt telling us we deserve this and more? Maybe. Maybe he thought if I slapped him that would be the end of it and I wouldn't freak on him any more - not likely!! He seems to just accept the consequences of his actions. All the stuff I demanded in the early days, and the times when I still get angry/sad/quiet/melancholy about what he did, he just hangs his head and apologizes again and hugs me. I'm sure if I HAD actually slapped him he would have done the same. On Dday#2 when I was throwing everything I could get my hands on at him, he just stood there looking sad.
Tayla Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Pardon for this brief intermission**** For those folks Riding a High horse and NOT at all relating to the REALITY of the matter and the FANTASY, Your Horse is waiting for you to jump off and walk the earth with us humans**** Now back to our regularly scheduled program. Absolutely wanted to kick box my then bf and his lady when I found them! And sadly and not with much pride at the time I did the girly type fighting with her. Hair pulling and grabbing her shirt....Not at all proud of such behavior and they were NOT at all proud when I caught them. The fantasy is as stated, kept in the mind and no further need it go. IF anyone has a book called "I deserved that!" let me know because 80% of what happens to us isn't deserved be it good things or not...they happen though.
Stung Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Wait a sec here...I'm not saying it would have been ok for him to beat the tar out of me or anything - I am saying it would have been understandable had he slapped me. It would have even been deserved. Hitting still isn't "right", but it certainly can be deserved in certain circumstances. It's wiser and and more respectable to refrain, obviously... Pardon for this brief intermission**** For those folks Riding a High horse and NOT at all relating to the REALITY of the matter and the FANTASY, Your Horse is waiting for you to jump off and walk the earth with us humans**** . I can't disagree with this. This is a hypothetical to me, and one I will hopefully never find out the real-life answer to, but I've had unrealized bloody fantasies in other situations, I imagine I would in the case of infidelity. I am generally quite evolved and against violence, I never attack people, I am against war, I live quietly and peacefully, but I am also a hot blooded human animal whose emotions can occasionally get the best of her logical mind. I have felt my good sense cloud with rage before, I can't say it would never ever happen again. I don't think I would strike out physically at my husband if he cheated on me, nor do I think he would raise a hand to me--but I don't personally think that slapping someone who has dealt you a terrible, life-altering emotional betrayal is the worst thing in the world, either. I mean, let's get real, it's not like you're beating the crap out of them or setting them on fire.
Farrah Posted October 14, 2011 Posted October 14, 2011 What do you say if the guy cheats on you and hits you. How fair is that...? I've never raised my hand in anger to anyone, and aint about to start. But some of ya, tell me, when you found out they cheated, didn't you really have fantasies of slapping the ever lovin' piss out of them? I know I did. Never would, but I just always wondered how satisfying it would be. Of course I didn't have to, my ex-wife's OM's girlfriend slapped her at a bar for me.
Author nofool4u Posted October 14, 2011 Author Posted October 14, 2011 What do you say if the guy cheats on you and hits you. How fair is that...? not sure the relevance since we are talking about the cheater getting slapped. but if a guy cheats on you AND hits you, you call the cops on his sorry arse.
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