Daremo_06 Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 after reading this http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=299987&page=2 (specifically what Mac says at the end).. I am wondering if I might want to try the same thing for the next 4 weeks or so? Or am I just better going low contact on my own and not be very available to her unless its a real crisis. Then again, why would I want to tip my hand. I tend to share too much at times, so maybe keeping this on the down low is better for me? Lol! I guess I have no idea what to do. Oh and while I was writing this, she texted me asking how I am doing. Thanks universe!!!
Dark Phoenix Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 after reading this http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=299987&page=2 (specifically what Mac says at the end).. I am wondering if I might want to try the same thing for the next 4 weeks or so? Or am I just better going low contact on my own and not be very available to her unless its a real crisis. Then again, why would I want to tip my hand. I tend to share too much at times, so maybe keeping this on the down low is better for me? Lol! I guess I have no idea what to do. Oh and while I was writing this, she texted me asking how I am doing. Thanks universe!!! Sounds like a plan from the "get your ex back" systems. You can try this approach but keep in mind that if you do go through with setting up a meeting you must stay NC until the meeting. breaking NC after setting this up will absolutely destroy your chances, so only do this if you have the utmost confidence that you can stick to the plan. Personally, if I did this approach I would focus on yourself (gym, studies, job, hobbies) for a month and then set up the meeting. For this month I would stay strict NC to be sure the air is completely clear, and it may get her curious about why you dropped off the face of the earth. I wouldn't hold any expectations for reconciling though, she will be able to sense your hidden agenda from the get-go and your chances are lost. (hence the one month before executing anything and staying strict NC)
Author Daremo_06 Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Yeah, that's something I was thinking about also. I think I'll take the advice one of her friends gave me, "be minimally available, blow her off a few times. Be there if its something huge, but otherwise let her stew a bit. Be mysterious"
Dark Phoenix Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Yeah, that's something I was thinking about also. I think I'll take the advice one of her friends gave me, "be minimally available, blow her off a few times. Be there if its something huge, but otherwise let her stew a bit. Be mysterious" I've also read that in a "get your ex back" book. That is the way, ideally, that it should be done. Go your own separate ways and let the one who ran off come back later. Just don't hang up on this girl for too long. I understand wanting to try, I did the same. After you've gone through with all of this you will be able to walk away knowing that you did everything that you possibly could to recover the lost love. It will still hurt but I think you will get to a stable state of mind relatively quickly after you've tried your plan.
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