abuckeyeleaf Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Help. I've got itchy fingers and I DON'T want to make a mistake. I was doing decent and had stayed NC until he reached out on Tuesday making excuses for why he can't mail me my things and just has to see me in person to do it. He also apologized. I didn't acknowledge the apology, kept my responses strictly business. Because no, I don't forgive what he said and no, I don't want to ease his conscience. But today, all of these little things keep reminding me of him. I'm a couponer, and I would always buy the products he likes when they were on sale. Well I saw some coupons for things he loves that rarely have coupons. I just wanna text him and tell him, make contact. But I can't, that would be like accepting his apology and then I'd be back at square one. I know it sounds stupid. But the heartbroken rarely think rationally. How do you all keep from texting? If they text you, do you respond?
radiodarcy Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 oh boy -- have i ever been where you are. for starters i switch the ringer off or put it on the lowest setting possible and stash it in the most inconvenient of all places - - so it's not easily accessible; like a zippered compartment of my bag or in the pocket of a heavy winter coat all the way back of my closet. if the urge to send him a text struck me, i would visualize myself doing just that, then imagine myself looking at the phone every five seconds, waiting for a response that either never comes or isn't the one i was hoping for. having been through both scenarios numerous times before it wasn't hard to remind myself of how lousy i felt afterwards. the memory itself was enough to make me change my mind about contacting him. honestly if he texts you don't respond. i know it's not easy but it's better if you don't. and resisting his attempts to contact you will make you feel stronger.
silic0ntoad Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Don't text him. It'll only lead you to more heartbreak. The number one rule when it comes to breakups is this: If you have questions, do not ask. They only lead to more questions. Accept things as they are, and wisdom will come to you on your own accord.
Author abuckeyeleaf Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Thanks guys, I wrote him a little note in the "Post here instead of contacting your ex" thread. Made me feel better.
radiodarcy Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 awesome! that's another thing i do when i feel the urge to contact him. it really does help
Author abuckeyeleaf Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Here's what i wrote, I'll share here too Z, How does it feel now that the tables have turned? I told you I wasn't going to chase you, so now you're making up BS excuses to see me. Why? We don't have fun, remember? Oh, so now that you're sitting at home alone everynight with no company except that big bottle of Johnny Walker, you've got time to look at my facebook page, huh? See all the fun I', having without you? You were exactly right, it's not me - it's you. You called me crazy, I can't wait for the day when you truly meet a crazy b!tch. Yeah, I was your first. Good luck finding a girl who is going to humor you by telling you you've got a big c*ck. And will be able to keep from laughing when your head bobs during sex and makes you look like a horse. Remember when I showed up to your place on your birthday in a trench coat and corset? Or your introduction to roadhead? What about when I let you bang me on the desk of the coworker you can't stand? Remember that? Good luck finding it again. I hope when you meet "marriage material," that she's willing to overlook your b!tch tits and your hairy back. You'd be lucky to find another girl who wasn't completely repulsed by shaving your back so you could lay by the pool without animal control being called. And everytime I shop and see the ***** that you use on sale, I'll laugh because I know you're paying full price. Thanks for freeing up some space in my coupon binder. And did I ever tell you that I almost stopped seeing you after the first time you kissed me? I didn't really appreciate being slobbered on. Most of us learn how to kiss before we're 23 years old. Granted, most of us also get laid before that age too. Why did I keep seeing you? Oh, because you were my rebound from my ex. Yeah, my ex Bobby, had he wanted to get back together, I would have dropped your ass. Let me quote you from last week, "how's it feel to have hurtful ***** thrown in your face?" But that's enough. I've gotta go, my daddy issues that you hate so much and I don't have time for this anymore. Between my friends, my career, the home I own, my pets and the 10k a year more than you that I make, there just aren't enough hours in the day. Next time you're on facebook, which is likely everynight that you sit home alone and lonely, don't bother looking at my page, because I sure as hell won't be looking at yours. <3, L
radiodarcy Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 ahahahaha! sounds like you are definitely better off without this guy ! no wonder he keeps sniffing him around. he needs you more than you need him! keep moving on and don't look back!
Author abuckeyeleaf Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 I felt much better after writing that
Queen of Hearts 10 Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 Someone said go close your fingers in the car door so you will stop calling and texting him !!!! Lol !!!!!! No I didn't do it ! They all just want me to move on ! Love my Friends !! Queen of Hearts 10
Bruised Not Broken Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 then imagine myself looking at the phone every five seconds, waiting for a response that either never comes or isn't the one i was hoping for. having been through both scenarios numerous times before it wasn't hard to remind myself of how lousy i felt afterwards. the memory itself was enough to make me change my mind about contacting him. EXCELLENT way of looking at it. How many times have we all done this. Before he would reply within 20 minutes...now he can reply to an email 24 hours later...his phone is attached to him more than his own hand is....so it always makes me think he is with another woman..etc...and just "too busy" for me. and he either doesn't respond...or says something that hurts ...like how great life is going (you know...WITHOUT ME) So...I think that is the greatest advice to get through the desire to text or email. Save yourself the pain and humiliation.
Kamila Posted October 1, 2011 Posted October 1, 2011 At first I responded to his short textmessages. After 6 months, I didn't answer anymore, and he kept on texting petty things like 'how's it going ? , 'wanna grab a coffee ?', ... It's not really about you sending him something back, it's about you understanding what all this texting means... And it means that you have to stop it. If he wanted to see you for something serious like having a committed, durable and meaningful relationship, he'll be doing more than some lazy texting. Yes texting is being lazy and is oh so easy. It's a switch you'll have to do inside your head. Lock that heart of yours. Stop the guilt-trip when you think that sending him nothing back is 'bad' or 'unrespectful'. It's about taking care of yourself first. He'll sense it and will start to respect you. He'll respect your wishes you want someone better and you won't hear from him again. Well, I hope so ...
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