ditzchic Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 I originally posted this is in the breaking up forum but I think this forum may be more appropriate.... I was with a guy for 2.5 months. We broke up about 2 months ago and I took it very hard. I really really liked him and I feel I messed up pretty bad in the way I acted towards him that led to our demise. When he dumped me (he said we were incompatible.. I think it's cuz I acted too coldly), I straight up asked him if he was completely over it and done thinking about pursuing anything with me. He told me he wasn't completely done thinking about it and that he would really miss me. He asked me to go see a movie with him the next day, I told him I couldn't. That I needed time to process. I sent him an e-mail the next morning and asked him if i could see him that weekend. He replied with "No. At least not now. Not yet." I told him to take his time and get back at me if/when he felt the need to. I didn't hear from him at all. I tried twice in the first month to contact him. Once through e-mail and once by text. Both times I was ignored. I hated the idea but figured he just wasn't interested so I needed to move on. I've been trying really hard. Even put myself in therapy to fix some of the issues I have that caused me to act so cold and calloused towards him. I still think about him daily and wonder what if... but it is what it is and I know that. I have to take the lessons learned and apply them to the present and the future, not dwell on the past. If one day we were to reconnect, great. If not, I'm a better version of me for the next one. Like I said, I told him to get at me when he was ready. Neither of us has unfriended each other on facebook. Well in the last couple of weeks he's commented on 2 of my facebook statuses. He rarely comments on facebook statuses ever. And even when we were together he only commented once on my facebook. The first time he did it, he made a joke and I thought he was just being funny and I wrote it off as nothing. The next time he did it his comment was so useless and random that it seems like he is just prodding me. Like he just wanted to show up on my page. I'm not sure what to do. Firstly, I don't count facebook as actually getting in touch with me. That's how people I haven't seen since elementary school get in touch with me, ya know? Secondly, I'm not sure of his motivation. Is he doing this to remind me of what I can't have? or is he doing this because he wants to talk? He is a very shy and timid guy. We met online and the first time around I had to initiate contact with him. He just kept viewing my profile over and over until I sent him a message and asked him why he kept looking but wasn't biting. Is this facebook thing the same thing? Should I text him? Is that what he wants? Or am I reading too much into this and it means nothing? I don't want to come across as being that crazy or needy girl that just can't let it go especially when I've been trying so hard and I also don't want to ruin the progress I've already made by ripping open a healing wound... I usually have a rule when it comes to getting back in touch with old flames. That rule is if you still have an emotional stake in what the outcome is, it's too soon. But is this the one time where taking a risk and putting myself out there will pay off? I really don't know what to do guys....
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