mittk Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 How often do you expect to be communicating (via text) with someone you have been seeing for about 3 or so weeks? Say you've been on about 6 or so dates, and have told each other you two are "exclusive" but have not committed to a relationship, and are instead still "taking it slow". How often would you expect to text that person or have that person text you? From your own experience/expectation - every day? Every few hours? Do you just text at night to see how the day went, or do you send texts throughout the day to keep the conversation going? I want to gauge people's experiences to see what's going on with mine.
thehead Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 I'm fine with texting once a day, but have dated women who want more frequent contact. On average, in your position, three texts a day has been the usual.
snug.bunny Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 How often do you expect to be communicating (via text) with someone you have been seeing for about 3 or so weeks? Say you've been on about 6 or so dates, and have told each other you two are "exclusive" but have not committed to a relationship, and are instead still "taking it slow". How often would you expect to text that person or have that person text you? From your own experience/expectation - every day? Every few hours? Do you just text at night to see how the day went, or do you send texts throughout the day to keep the conversation going? I want to gauge people's experiences to see what's going on with mine. I honestly don't know what my expectations would be telecommunication wise after the whole "don't date other people, only date each other but without intimacy (i.e. a "relationship"). Unless you're just boinking, at which point, I wouldn't see a need for two people who are just boinking to speak to each other often (though some people do talk regularly, have sex regularly, but aren't in a "relationship"). Put it this way, I am not going to further invest my time and emotion with someone if there are "limitations", I just don't see the point.
Author mittk Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 But if you *like* the person, wouldn't you want to hear from them fairly constantly? I don't know, can some people separate the emotional connection from the mundane chatting? I seems to emptionally invest myself a lot so if I like someone, I want to hear from them all the time.
oaks Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Say you've been on about 6 or so dates, and have told each other you two are "exclusive" but have not committed to a relationship, and are instead still "taking it slow". So, you're not in a relationship and you're just dating. In that case you shouldn't "expect" communication at any set interval, because there's no commitment to any particular behaviour. You might "hope" to hear from her/him.
verhrzn Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 In the early stages of a relationship, I prefer about 3-4 texts back and forth a day, though just hearing from them once is fine by me. If they call, there's no need for any texting for a day or two. Once I'm actually in an established relationship, I like to hear from the person every day. That's just my style.
Author mittk Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Reading these replies makes me realize I might be a little too needy. 3-4 texts a day is what I get, though they are fairly diplomatic in nature and content. I guess most agree gearing every day is ok, even expected.
Gypsie Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Gees I get no texts at all from the guy I am seeing. Probably once a week. If not even that.
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