Bsham Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 OK, my girlfriend of 1.5 years broke up with me August 30th this year so been a month. I pleaded for two days for her to give me a chance but I could see in her eyes and how she acted she was simply cold and distant to anything I said. So, I simply said I love her, I will leave the door open for her to come back if she wishes, I wrote her a letter and handed it to her to read telling her straight how I feel then said she must understand that time will heal me and eventually I could be gone. After that I haven't contacted her at all. She wants to be friends and stay in contact she said that before I left and I just said maybe and left it. Our relationship wasn't bad I just put my friends before her so I get why she done this and respect it. The first 2 weeks I was in absolute AGONY. I was dying inside, lost count of how many times I wanted to text or phone, but I didn't. I kept myself busy going to work and being how I normally am. After 2.5 weeks of this I'm now not upset anymore. Now it's a month and I'm feeling happiness again. How did I move on so fast? No, it's not because I don't love her, I really do and she actually loves me still. I moved through the pain day by day hour by hour and KEPT BUSY. This has gave me incredible strength. I feel amazing inside like a new person. I initiated this no contact in the secret hope it will make her miss me but as time went on I realised I'm actually moving forward naturally and doing it for me and to heal (yes a secret hope is there still but not worrying if I never see her again). I just wanted to write this to hopefully help people who are in pain right now. YOU CAN MOVE FORWARD YOU JUST HAVE TO FOCUS. Right at this moment in time if she contacted me and said do you want to meet up I probably wouldn't, not yet anyway. But seeing me now and seeing me two weeks ago you wouldn't believe the difference. I nearly lost my job it was that bad!
MIK1000 Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 OK, my girlfriend of 1.5 years broke up with me August 30th this year so been a month. I pleaded for two days for her to give me a chance but I could see in her eyes and how she acted she was simply cold and distant to anything I said. So, I simply said I love her, I will leave the door open for her to come back if she wishes, I wrote her a letter and handed it to her to read telling her straight how I feel then said she must understand that time will heal me and eventually I could be gone. After that I haven't contacted her at all. She wants to be friends and stay in contact she said that before I left and I just said maybe and left it. Our relationship wasn't bad I just put my friends before her so I get why she done this and respect it. The first 2 weeks I was in absolute AGONY. I was dying inside, lost count of how many times I wanted to text or phone, but I didn't. I kept myself busy going to work and being how I normally am. After 2.5 weeks of this I'm now not upset anymore. Now it's a month and I'm feeling happiness again. How did I move on so fast? No, it's not because I don't love her, I really do and she actually loves me still. I moved through the pain day by day hour by hour and KEPT BUSY. This has gave me incredible strength. I feel amazing inside like a new person. I initiated this no contact in the secret hope it will make her miss me but as time went on I realised I'm actually moving forward naturally and doing it for me and to heal (yes a secret hope is there still but not worrying if I never see her again). I just wanted to write this to hopefully help people who are in pain right now. YOU CAN MOVE FORWARD YOU JUST HAVE TO FOCUS. Right at this moment in time if she contacted me and said do you want to meet up I probably wouldn't, not yet anyway. But seeing me now and seeing me two weeks ago you wouldn't believe the difference. I nearly lost my job it was that bad! I was dying in the first two weeks too, getting better in the third then beginning to feel happiness again in the fourth. Then She drunk texted me at 2 in the morning just to say Hi. Stupidly I took that as a indication that she was thinking of me and starting to miss me. Then I found out that following weekend (last weekend) from someone else that her new Long distance BF was up staying for the weekend and it set me back and I spiralled into depression for the weekend. Starting to feel a bit better again though. I think that's pretty good progress after just a month considering I was madly in love with her for 1.5 years and she was my best friend. I got 2 new jobs, lost about 14 pounds of weight from working out a lot and started messing about with another girl. Also started driving lessons am making good progress. I feel like I have a lot more options open to me that i did and am looking forward to playing the field given that I'm only 20.
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