crackster Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 I just don't get it we were 2geta over 2half years after she ended it with me I went no.contact. for 4 weeks then we started to text as she wanted her stuff back she told to move p. Cos she has I asked does that mean u have. New boyfriend she saix yes Nd .ow her Facebook updates fall about waiting 4 him and they. Been on dates I can't even look at another girl never mind date. She ended it saying she dont love me but with all the evidance I have I really think.she might of left me for this lad I just feel crushed a betrayed:love: we were so close we lived 5 mins away from each other and were best friends I just don't no how u can move on that fast and even of she did not love me any more I.think u should wait more then a week to get with some one just out of respect
Author crackster Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Sorry about spelling am on my phone
MIK1000 Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 I just don't get it we were 2geta over 2half years after she ended it with me I went no.contact. for 4 weeks then we started to text as she wanted her stuff back she told to move p. Cos she has I asked does that mean u have. New boyfriend she saix yes Nd .ow her Facebook updates fall about waiting 4 him and they. Been on dates I can't even look at another girl never mind date. She ended it saying she dont love me but with all the evidance I have I really think.she might of left me for this lad I just feel crushed a betrayed:love: we were so close we lived 5 mins away from each other and were best friends I just don't no how u can move on that fast and even of she did not love me any more I.think u should wait more then a week to get with some one just out of respect Hurts like a bitch doesn't it? My only explanation i can think for it, after having the same thing happen to me is that once someone falls out of love with you, they can go very cold on you very quick, especially if they have someone else they like. They will do what they want at the time. It's seems like the most puzzling thing in the world to us because we don't understand how someone who was supposed to care about us more than anyone else in the world is now acting without any regard for our feelings.
PositiveNegative Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Yeah, the fact is whether she left you for him or not she checked out of the relationship long before she left you. I too am learning what it feels like to be replaced so quickly and it is not fun. It is just like someone pouring salt into your wounds. MIK is right. My ex explained to me as her just doing what she feels like she needs to do for her. We are not important anymore. Bottom line.
Bsham Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 She moved on so fast as she distanced herself from you emotionally for longer than you realised. Fact is if you want any chance of getting her back you should start dating. I started dating again after a month and strangely I've kind of started wanting to be with this girl I'm dating more now. She made me realise that there really is more than one person about. I still love my ex but I know waiting around will get me no where in life. I have to move forward and I'm doing it. I want to sit at home and cry and text her but I'm not allowing myself to do that. I'm forcing myself through the pain. It's all you can do my friend. As harsh as this may sound, feel free to cry and get upset, but cry or don't cry the day will still turn to night, time will still keep ticking. Nothing will stop the world turning around even if you stand still.
momto3boys Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Im sorry you're going through this. I know how you feel, i was married for almost 5 years, we have one son and one son on the way who's due in 6 weeks and my husband said he wants a divorce and he been cold and mean to me ever since. A week after telling me he wanted a divorce he had girls all over his facebook and is on dating websites. It hurts! The best thing i can say is, try not to look at her facebook, or find out anything about her new relationships. It only hurts worse.
Author crackster Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Hi thanks all it really hurt that she can just move on. On the other hand the end she wasent cold r distance she kept texting me saying she loves me and asking 2 go 4 walks on the beach and the week b4 she took us to Scotland 4 a meal and she just paid 1000 pound 4 a holiday that now al al am not going lol has this every happend 2 any 1 else like this and couple month later she relise what we had ?; am moving on and to behonaet I don't want her bk am just thinking she might one day regret it
Chi townD Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Can you do us a favor and start writing in english instead of text? I don't mean to be rude, but it makes it difficult to read and you get a lot more response if you write in full sentences. Okay, you need to go COMPLETE NC. You need to cut her out of her out of your life for good. You need to start to heal from this relationship and move on. If she texts you or e-mails you or calls you. Ignore it. Post here instead. People are here to walk you through the tough times. If you feel like you need to text her, e-mail her or call her. Post here instead, we'll talk you out of it and you'll feel better in the long run.
silic0ntoad Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Complete NC on her guy. Also, don't hope for her to come back. These personalities that runners tend to have leads them directly into the arms of opportunists waiting in the wings. She got over you a while ago. While harsh, it's true. Work on you. do what YOU want. If that means sit and be miserable alone, do it for a while. The best path to happiness isn't always the easiest.
Author crackster Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Thanks guys! as you all no it hurts i just found out she going on another date with that guy two night! am going all NC i blocked her on facebook and every thing! and am gonna have to tell my friends to stop telling me about her and what she is doing. sorry about the text before i was on my mobile lol
B_55 Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 I'm going through the same thing! my ex was in a new relationship after 3 weeks, and a week later they were talking about how much they love each other. It's devastating, but that is when i decided to go N.C. and have kept it up for 4 weeks. Just keep your head up and force yourself to try to flirt with random women. You will realize that you are much better off with out her.
Coupedriver Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 I really didnt get it either..How can you look someone in the eyes,kiss them,tell them "I LOVE YOU...your my best friend,my best lover,never had so much in common with you,etc..etc. and the whole TIME your talking with someone else and thinking about that other person..?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!??????????????How does this happen..??? How can someone TURN so quickly and act so cold..?? I will never understand it and I know until the day I die..NO one will ever be able to explain it.
Author crackster Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 I really didnt get it either..How can you look someone in the eyes,kiss them,tell them "I LOVE YOU...your my best friend,my best lover,never had so much in common with you,etc..etc. and the whole TIME your talking with someone else and thinking about that other person..?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!??????????????How does this happen..??? How can someone TURN so quickly and act so cold..?? I will never understand it and I know until the day I die..NO one will ever be able to explain it. Makes you feel sick dont it! you think its just you two against the world! you do every thing together. and one day out the blue they **** you off!
Coupedriver Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Makes me sick..?!?!?! Hell,that's an understatement of the YEAR..!! Maybe I am still in denial but how can you do that to someone..?? YES...us against the WORLD...!! You take them from hell so they can live a better life with you...you make them feel wanted..happy.Give them a warm house and bed to sleep in...maybe I need to be bi*ch slapped.The thing about it is....I can ask her those questions....I have been given that chance....But what to do is the question....she can't hurt me anymore... I have taken her POWER away. I wonder....ok..I am too hungry to think about it.I STILL WANT answers..WHY..? because I am a curious sort of a guy...gotta find out what makes it do what it does and why it does it....LOL.
Author crackster Posted September 30, 2011 Author Posted September 30, 2011 Even After breaking up after 2 half yours why would you wanna date some one again any ways! would you not just have break and dont have to worry about a new relationship. One min am crying the next am like **** her! she left me and got with another guy! but then am upset again! she was telling me how much she loved me weeks before she broke it of i just dont get it i feel like she was getting board of doing the same thing getting into a routine like eery long term relationship does and then the new guys come around and now she feels new and exited.. i dunno but any ways i never understand..
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