LoveandSuch Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 I am very attracted to this man a work. He is handsome, tall, intelligent.... I di not really pay particular attention to him at first, but everytime I see him he grows on me, very strange, for this has never happened, not black and white, but there are some difficulties. He is very friendly to a few people he knows and works with, but other than that he is quiet, almost aloof, very focused on his work as he should be. He does not pay attention or oogle every pretty girl that walks by. (He could be gay, although I would not know) I have discussed work over the phone once in which I had to, and the issue was silly, and I was sure he was going to be rude about it, and was so surprised, how considerate, relaxed, and talkative he was. It is fabulous he does not seem the player type, but that makes it difficult! I can walk by and he does not look, and this is with everyone, he is just task oriented. How do I get his attention without it being obvious, like using a Cowbell or Dinner bell...! I read another thread of a man questioning if he has to be a player to get women....the answer is no, but the player types are the ones setting themselves out on the buffet table, the others are not, so making contact is virtually if seemingly impossible!
Author LoveandSuch Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 So???? Lol. How do I get his attention besides tripping, face first flat in front of him.)))
norajane Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Start by saying hello to him regularly as you pass by. Make sure you smile. Work your way up to small chit-chat. Then, maybe stop by his desk one day and mention you're going out to pick up a latte and ask if he'd like one. Or be direct and ask him to come with you to get the coffee. Or invite him to lunch one day. Or plan an after-work happy hour with some others from the office and invite him to come, too. Are you involved in a charity? Ask him if he'd like to help with an upcoming event or something.
thehead Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Start by saying hello to him regularly as you pass by. Make sure you smile. Work your way up to small chit-chat. Then, maybe stop by his desk one day and mention you're going out to pick up a latte and ask if he'd like one. Or be direct and ask him to come with you to get the coffee. Or invite him to lunch one day. Or plan an after-work happy hour with some others from the office and invite him to come, too. Are you involved in a charity? Ask him if he'd like to help with an upcoming event or something. This is good advice. I don't mean to be a downer but you may have your work cut out for you. If the dude is this focused on work, he sounds very professional. Professional to the point of maybe not wanting to mix work with pleasure. Give it a try anyway. No guts, no glory.
Author LoveandSuch Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Might try the hello method. I do not think I am bold enough for much more. But he is hot and interesting, different, cannot put my finger on it. He is mysterious! Lol.
wolfess Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Get to know him, just strike up a conversation, make sure he's available and see if he may be into you, be yourself!
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