person123 Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Hey guys I'm looking for some tips on flirting, but my life isn't really that eventful, and so I don't think I have that many interesting things to talk about when first meeting with a girl. I'm not that funny, so how would I flirt with a girl if I don't have much to say?
ChessPieceFace Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Ha, welcome to the club. If you're like me, it's not that you don't have anything to talk about, but that you have specialized interests that you get absorbed in, that don't make for good general conversation. I don't have an answer for you since I am very affected by that too. I can talk for great lengths about video games or shows I like, or projects I am involved in, but small talk is painfully boring.
oldguy Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Are you talking about a first date or just approaching someone? Either way I believe it has much more to do with how you present yourself than what you talk about. Be yourself, don't try to reinvent yourself to attract someone who is not a good fit or you will be back here asking for advice on how to get over a bad breakup.
somethingsimple Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Essentially, its more important how you say things than what you say. Flirting, is definitely an art form. Its suppose to more about having fun than an information session. Besides everyone knows what the best conversation topic is. Her. Just be quiet, listen, and be really engaged. Just branch out topics from whatever she says. She should be talking at least twice as much as you, scratch that, three times. One thing that I love to do is that, when she ask me questions, I just respond with a question to her. Just ignoring whatever she asked me. It keeps me mysterious and keeps me on her mind. Here's some tips in list form: 1. Listen 2. Eye Contact 3. Body Language (facial expressions, stuff like that) 4. Smile 5. Have fun (if you're having it, chances are she will too) 6. Lean back (it just works, trust) 7. Confidence
Whipple Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 I agree with oldguy. Be yourself, as cliche as it sounds. If you start doing pickup artist stuff, it becomes phony. As oldguy said, you do not want to be attracting the "wrong" girls for you. This is just a personal preference, but if a guy wouldn't answer my questions, I would wonder what's up. And not in a good way. It would also make me feel like I'm in psychotherapy with questions as an answer to my questions. If you're "boring" then go do stuff that won't make you "boring." A guy with hobbies that are legal is attractive.
EasyHeart Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 I wanted to respond to the OP, but half-way through the post I got so bored that I fell asleep. . . ..
grkBoy Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Hey guys I'm looking for some tips on flirting, but my life isn't really that eventful, and so I don't think I have that many interesting things to talk about when first meeting with a girl. I'm not that funny, so how would I flirt with a girl if I don't have much to say? I've found one thing you can do is to make sure you read the news every day. Not just the normal political/crime junk, but also the entertainment/celebrity stuff. Go on a site like Huffington Post once a day perhaps and just keep up with the world around you. It'll make it easier when conversations come up. I also just like to listen at times, ask some questions, and gauge interest from there. If I can see she gives short answers and it's a struggle to talk to her, I'll be polite and wish her well...moving on. You can't force things.
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