StellaA Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 I recently heard my ex may move away, I haven't spoken to him for a few weeks, I have seen him to wave at a couple of time but not to talk to. I suddenly felt panicky at the thought of him moving away, am I ok at the moment because I know where he is or will this fade with time and It will not matter where he is living?
smudge21 Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Like me hearing my ex is getting married, it sets off alarm bells as you realise any hope you have of a reconciliation slowly going away for good. Even following a break up, we still hold out hope (sometimes even though we can't admit it) and it takes something like this to really cement into our minds that it is truly over. It will be tough the closer it gets to that date when he does go (as it will be for me when she says yes) but this will bring the closure we need in order to totally 100% move on. Yes it will hurt, but eventually that hurt will pass when we accept once and for all that the relationship and any chance of it happening again, is over.
B_55 Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 It's normal to feel that way, because deep down a small part of you will always cherish that person. But you have to remind yourself that it's only a small part of a much bigger picture that is you.
TheDovic Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Are you still speaking to each other? This is really tough because usually I would advice giving some space, because I read somewhere whilst initially the dumpee feels bad, the dumper tends to feel bad after around two months apart. This is evident with my ex at present! Is it certain he is moving away? Maybe text and wish him luck but don't have any emotion in it whatsoever. I've been like this with my ex and she keeps texting me and even showed up at my house last night. I think it gets them thinking when we appear unphased!
Author StellaA Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Hi everyone Thanks for the messages, they really help. We are not 'not speaking' with ended as friends and have been polite since but I do not talk to him as it is 2 hard. If I see him I say hi but we have not texted etc for a while. I don't know he is def going, just heard a few things and he always said he wanted to move away somewhere, even when we were together he wanted us both to move away. I guess it will mean that I have to finally accpet it is over, although I know it is over maybe I am deep down holding onto that 1% chance. He dumped me about 3 months ago and I think he is moving on. He said he will always love me but can't give me what I want right now. Myabe moving away would be good. I just hate him having a new life with me not in it, even though I have to try and accept this is the way it is now
smudge21 Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Knowing it's over and accepting it's over are often worlds apart...
Author StellaA Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Your right in what you say........I think I have the hardest part to come yet! mixed in with anniversaries and xmas hols, birthdays! it's going to be tough over the next 6 months
smudge21 Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 It could be hard, it could last 6 months, although you could heal quickly when you meet someone new, or win the lottery and buy a private island... basically, you don't know what the future holds, other than the knowledge that you will heal and you will love again. Of that I'm certain.
Author StellaA Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Thanks smudge21 how are you feeling now? How long did it take you to start healing?
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