capshockey Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 I had a one night stand with this guy I met at a party about a week and a half ago (he's my age, goes to my school, both in Greek Life at school). We had both been drinking, but we weren't drunk to the point where we couldn't control ourselves or weren't aware of what was going on. Before we kissed at the party, we were just cuddling and having a good, meaningful conversation... at one point he told me he thought I was gorgeous and that he didn't understand how I never had a boyfriend. We were also sobering up on our way back to his place and to be honest, I think he was a little more sober than I was. I spent the night at his place and afterwards, he like wrapped me around with his arms in bed and threw his blanket over me, kept me warm, etc. It was actually really sweet, considering I've hooked up with other guys before and they never bothered to really take care of me like that after the deed. I woke up in the morning in his arms with him like cuddling and caressing me. I had to leave around 9am cause I had a meeting with some friends that morning, but he didn't want me to leave. He kept asking me to just stay with him in bed, but I had to go. Before I left though, he handed me his phone and asked me for my number. I gave him my number but I didn't get his (I didn't have my phone on me, I left it at my apartment by accident before I left for the party). He walked me out and gave me a goodbye kiss. Some hours later that day, I also get a facebook friend request from him. A few days later, I decide to send a facebook message just saying "hey! what's up :)" since I didn't have his number. I didn't get a response back for a couple days but then he texted me last Thursday saying "hey it's ____". I got his text late so I ended up responding back while he was on his way to class so he said "I'm on my way to class but i'll talk to you later". I didn't think he would actually follow through but he did. He texted me later that night but I was busy with something so I got his text late again. I told him "hey! sorry for the delay i was busy with recruitment stuff. what's up?" so we exchanged a few words and a few texts but then he stopped responding. Two days later (last Saturday), I casually text him what he was up to that weekend. He told me that he was in Philly for the weekend to see his friend at another school and go to a concert. Again, we exchanged a few texts but then he stopped responding. His texts were never short or blunt or anything like that, but it bothers me still that he stopped texting. I don't know if it's maybe because he was with his friend and he was on his way to the concert or if he was bored? He would like ask me a question and when I would respond back, he wouldn't respond afterwards. I haven't spoken to him since then but I'm still curious. I would really like to hang out with him again but I don't want to text him again, even though a part of me still wants to ask him what he's up to this weekend. What do you guys think? Why would he ask me for my number if he doesn't plan on talking to me? Should I text him this weekend one last time?
make me believe Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Well, he IS talking to you. Semi-frequently, it sounds like. How are your texts to him? In your last exchange you said he'd ask you a question, you'd answer, and he wouldn't respond. What was your answer like? Were you making any attempt at asking HIM questions and engaging him in conversation like he was doing to you? I don't really see anything wrong with sending him a text asking what he's up to this weekend, but my guess in this situation is that he wants to keep you around as a potential FWB/hook up partner. If he wanted to date you, I think he would have already asked you out or taken more initiative.
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