thebig-guy Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Hi all, been dumped by my ex a week ago. officially NC for 2 days. should i expect a happy birthday from her today or not? I know if she doesnt it will REALLY anger me.
Lucio Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 don't expect anything don't be angry don't tell her u will be angry if she doesn't text u i did the first two on my 21st birthday and i got this: "i'm not your girlfriend anymore u cannot expect me to do anything for you" plus a hang up before i said anything else. for many years i did not celebrate my birthday anymore because of this.
Author thebig-guy Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 my god thats cold. I really wish i could not get angry. I just think its totally heartless and not her at all. Do you think she will realise its my birthday? she works 16 hour days so she could be pretty busy.
Lucio Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 i'm sure she knows it's ur birthday. 3 years later after she did that to me, i came across her blog and saw that she mentioned my birthday. now it's been 8 years and i still can't believe she could be so heartless and do that to me either. everyday i still ask why?
Rorschach64 Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Listen to Lucio on this. DO NOT expect jack crap nothing as I didn't even recieve a 'happy birthday you piece of craparoni, eat crap and die' from someone I was going to marry and did nothing wrong to but expose the lies. I did get quite upset and mad over it while I was at my Army training and wanted to rip her a new one, as she also stole my laptop, but I didn't because she doesn't deserve ANY of my emotions even the anger and resentment. It made me lash out at others in the end. Happy Birthday in advance You don't need her. Also, in my opinion, with how technology has made communication so very easy and quick being too busy these days to send a text/email is just bull. Took me two minutes if at that to send a little something to a complete stranger.
B_55 Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 I'd say no, don't expect anything from her. And if she does wish you one then play it off cool. Don't seem to eager!
TheDovic Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Who knows dude. If she does text be really cool about it though and don't think it's an invitation to talk more. Just text back saying "thanks." PS, Happy Birthday dude
Author thebig-guy Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Ok got it. I suppose Its best to say nothing because if i do then i will probably say something like - "wow, thanks for the birthday message" and it would probably just piss her off even more and make me seem interested still. (not that i care) If i dont complain and she says nothing then she clearly knows its my birthday so it will just make her think im not bothered anymore. result If she does say happy birthday ill just say thanks and come across like i dont care. Which i probably wont in a month or 2. i just need to refrain my anger. because ive already lashed out and called her a sl*t!
TheDovic Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Refrain from ALL emotions dude. Read the following thread, it really makes a lot of sense! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t297551/
radiodarcy Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 well first off - - happy birthday! secondly, no - - i wouldn't recommend you expect to hear from her today. but if she does send you a birthday text, i would recommend you not read into it anymore than her being polite and leave it at at that. i know it's only been a week since the break up and 2 days of NC, but try to focus on the birthday greeting you will be getting from family and friends. those will mean more to you now than before. this is your day, regardless of whether she contacts you or not.
Art_Critic Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 I know you guys have just broken up and sometimes old habits are hard to break so if you get a b-day message consider it a habit and nothing more...
TheStylist Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 No, don't expect anything. I dumped my ex two days before his birthday and I didn't greet him. In my mind, I was like " What for? Why pretend to care? " It's not being heartless. Its just the way it is now. Reality bites hard.
Author thebig-guy Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 I guess thats the harsh reality... Better get myself out with my mates rather than sat in the house thinking about someone who doesnt deserve me.
danceallday Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Hey bigguy - my Birthday was Sunday and I got an email from my ex-ex (every year without fail for 12 years since we broke up) even though I put him through hell; I also got a text from my first love h.s. boyfriend saying I was beautiful; but nothing, zip, from my ex. It upset me a lot. I spent 12 years with him and he tells his Mother to tell me Happy Birthday - weak. I think it speaks volumes as to the character of people and what kind of person they are. Happy Birthday and surround yourself with the people who really love you.
Chi townD Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Don't expect anything from her, be pleasantlt surprised if you do. But, I wouldn't expect it. By the way.....Happy Birthday!!!!
mshummy88 Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Hey happy birthday! Funny enough its my birthday today as as well, I turned 23. Similar situation as you but I actually got a call from my ex and it turned into a simple wishing me a happy birthday to her saying "it doesn't feel like you care about me..and im going back and forth between you and another guy." So hopefully your day is going better then mine. But still keep your head up, its a new year for yourself
TheDovic Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Hey happy birthday! Funny enough its my birthday today as as well, I turned 23. Similar situation as you but I actually got a call from my ex and it turned into a simple wishing me a happy birthday to her saying "it doesn't feel like you care about me..and im going back and forth between you and another guy." So hopefully your day is going better then mine. But still keep your head up, its a new year for yourself Happy birthday mshummy!
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