Grinder88 Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Well, for those who don't know I got ditched by a girl who didn't respect me enough to tell me she was going back to her ex, or even tell me she was no longer interested in me, I had to find out when I got blocked on Facebook and none of my texts or calls got returned. Well ive been NC for 2 days after i sent a text "because you think ignoring me is best, I just wanted you to know i did care about you and the way you did what you did was just cruel, the really sad part is after all that i sincerly hope you are happy goodbye autumn" I also found out about the night they got back together, she went to a party at a nearby college town, Before she left we were together I hugged and kissed her and told her to have a good time, she said she would miss me and then drove off. That night she called her ex up balling and he drives 3 hours to see her. The next day she seems distant to me I ask whats wrong so she calls me and tells me how she was locked out of her friends house and wasnt gonna be able to get her stuff and head home to make it to work, I tried to make her feel better before i had to hang up. ....later that day ...I had had made plans to go out days before and asked her if she wanted to join me she accepted, so i texted her that night seeing when/where she wanted to go and she said she was just gonna stay home, I thought it was just becuase she had had a rough day, so i went out with a few friends. While out i thought about her and was gonna post a message on her wall but I couldn't find her profile, so i send a text "everything ok" no response so the next morning I send "autumn? can you please tell me what is going on?" still no response so I then i hear about the whole meet up with her ex and it all starts to make sense so i sent the goodbye text and been NC since Today i was on a mutual friends account and checked her profile Its like i never existed. The PDA between her i guess now bf and her is like a knife in my heart. I never thought it would be so hard all i want is to see her and hear her voice I can't eat, I can't focus Ive been trying to keep busy but there is just no fighting it I miss her, even after all she has done. I don't really know what im looking for from you guys, just support I guess and a place to vent. Thanks:confused:
norajane Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 I never thought it would be so hard all i want is to see her and hear her voice I can't eat, I can't focus Ive been trying to keep busy but there is just no fighting it I miss her, even after all she has done. A lot of people have felt like that at times - you are not alone. I'm sorry she broke your heart. At first, keeping busy isn't really going to keep your mind off anything. However, keeping busy does force you to hold it together enough that you don't go off the deep end - never leaving the house, pizza boxes piling up next to you, replaying the relationship tapes in your head. Give it time, and be good to yourself. You'll be ok.
Author Grinder88 Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Thanks..it feels good to just get it all out there, Im not sure what hurts more the fact that she is gone or that she didn't even tell me what was going on and i had to figure it all out on me own
antz2411 Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Give it time, and be good to yourself. You'll be ok. what she meant was grow a pair and start acting like a man.
mike588 Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Well, for those who don't know I got ditched by a girl who didn't respect me enough to tell me she was going back to her ex, or even tell me she was no longer interested in me, I had to find out when I got blocked on Facebook and none of my texts or calls got returned. Well ive been NC for 2 days after i sent a text "because you think ignoring me is best, I just wanted you to know i did care about you and the way you did what you did was just cruel, the really sad part is after all that i sincerly hope you are happy goodbye autumn" I also found out about the night they got back together, she went to a party at a nearby college town, Before she left we were together I hugged and kissed her and told her to have a good time, she said she would miss me and then drove off. That night she called her ex up balling and he drives 3 hours to see her. The next day she seems distant to me I ask whats wrong so she calls me and tells me how she was locked out of her friends house and wasnt gonna be able to get her stuff and head home to make it to work, I tried to make her feel better before i had to hang up. ....later that day ...I had had made plans to go out days before and asked her if she wanted to join me she accepted, so i texted her that night seeing when/where she wanted to go and she said she was just gonna stay home, I thought it was just becuase she had had a rough day, so i went out with a few friends. While out i thought about her and was gonna post a message on her wall but I couldn't find her profile, so i send a text "everything ok" no response so the next morning I send "autumn? can you please tell me what is going on?" still no response so I then i hear about the whole meet up with her ex and it all starts to make sense so i sent the goodbye text and been NC since Today i was on a mutual friends account and checked her profile Its like i never existed. The PDA between her i guess now bf and her is like a knife in my heart. I never thought it would be so hard all i want is to see her and hear her voice I can't eat, I can't focus Ive been trying to keep busy but there is just no fighting it I miss her, even after all she has done. I don't really know what im looking for from you guys, just support I guess and a place to vent. Thanks:confused: I know exactly how you feel and what your going thru. My now ex. g/f of almost a year dumped me 2 months ago to go back with her ex b/f. I know what your going thru with not being able to eat, probably can't sleep and can't focus and want to hear her voice again. It's normal and you will get thru this in time. I know that's so easy for me to say yet it is still so difficult for you at this time. Since your only 2 days into N.C. I would suggest( if you want her back) is to let her know how you feel,(if you haven't already) what you want/expect out of the relationship and then leave it at that then go STRICT N.C. Say what you need/feel you need to say then "walk away" The ball is in her corner now. Move on with your life,don't sit around and wait for her. Please do NOT beg, plead, cry, show up at her place, send flowers etc. as this will only push her further away! Do you really want someone in your life that does this to you? You may get a response from Mack05 and M2155 as well as others on your situation,, LISTEN TO THEM!!! They will not steer you wrong!! Follow their advise and it will help you so much!
Author Grinder88 Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Im pretty sure I don't want her back. I just want to know if the time we did spend together meant anything. Which i guess ill just have to accept that ill probably know...And is it weird that I hope she calls so I can tell her how much of a b**** she is and how she really f-ed up and im gone forever, just rub that huge ass mistake she made in her face?
norajane Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Im pretty sure I don't want her back. I just want to know if the time we did spend together meant anything. Which i guess ill just have to accept that ill probably know...And is it weird that I hope she calls so I can tell her how much of a b**** she is and how she really f-ed up and im gone forever, just rub that huge ass mistake she made in her face? I know it seems like it would feel really satisfying to say that to her, but, in the end, you'll feel like a d*ck for doing so. And you might wish you hadn't let her know how deeply she hurt you. You may instantly feel bad you said it, or it may take you a while, but you will probably feel bad about it later.
Lucio Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 hey there, i understand how heartbroken u are. it's like u totally never existed or u've never been with this girl. sometimes u wonder if what u had with her were all just a dream. i've been there. it's especially tough when she doesn't even give u a word, and just switched u off like that. i don't know what further else to say, other than give u a pat on the shoulder. it will be a long lonely road of recovery, but u must not give up.
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