Sunflower123 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 (edited) I posted about my breakup with boyfriend 3 months ago & then when I thought we were getting back together just recently. We have lived together for over a year and we still do. To make a long story short, I thought we were reconciling and we started to act like boyfriend/girlfriend again, he even started referring to me as his girlfriend in conversation. Things were going great. Then, yesterday he got a job offer in Sweden. He would need to train there for 10 months then be willing to relocate right after to a different state across the country from where we live now. Of course, I wasn't crazy about this idea. He asked me to move with him after the 10 months were up. He said that he will pay for me to visit while he's in Sweden and he will continue to pay rent on our apartment and do anything else he needs to do to help me out. Well, I'm very excited for him, but the real problem is what happened next. I was asking him questions and we got into a huge fight about how we are NOT in a relationship, but he wants to stay in contact with me every day. He said that he doesn't want a relationship right now, but I'm his best friend and he wants to take care of me including financially while he's away. He's begging me to move with him in 10 months and work on things together once we get our lives on track (even though he doesn't guarantee a relationship even then). He also promised me he was not going to hook up with any other women in the meantime...I would love to trust him. I told him I think we should just end things if he doesn't want any kind of relationship while he's gone (even though what he's describing IS a relationship to me). He keeps trying to convince me that in 10 months it will be worth it and we will be together. Before this offer, he had some other job prospects in the US and I was planning on moving with him. I know that even people who are madly in love struggle with LDRs so I don't see how this could ever work. I know it takes work, and he's not even willing to work on a basic relationship right now. I really love him and I can't stand arguing about this anymore...he says I'm not supporting him. I am just devastated, confused and could use some advice. He's moving at the end of October Edited September 28, 2011 by Sunflower123
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