OTgirl Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 This is a very general question I know. Of course one should always go with his/her heart and when he/she feels comfortable and ready. Having a protection/STD conversation is also essential. So let's say you are looking for someone to have a long term relationship with (hopefully leading to marriage). You meet someone and you two really like each other and have talked about all the important stuff. Oh and you are adults in your thirties. When is a good/average/safe time to have sex with someone? For us ladies we have to worry about seeming easy and all. Do guys like when the girl makes them wait a while? And guys, if you come on to strong physically that can for sure turn a woman off and make her think you are looking for a good time. I guess I just want to see what you all think. There really is no right or wrong answer as this is highly individualized.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Assuming everything goes well on all previous dates, I'd say, the fourth date should probably be about fair. Third is cool too. There are no rules that you must have sex by a certain time but generally, you'll establish by date three that you have been really wanting each other and it's probably time to find out if you are any good at sex. I regret having had sexual activities on first dates. But who says no when you're young?
oaks Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 When is a good/average/safe time to have sex with someone? About 10pm on Saturday should be good. 7pm would be too early as it clashes with Doctor Who on tv. Whatever you choose will be too early for some and not soon enough for others, but you only need to get it right for the two of you and not the dozens of us in this forum.
SmileFace Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 About 10pm on Saturday should be good. 7pm would be too early as it clashes with Doctor Who on tv. You mean arround 11:30. They shouldn't be back from a date by 10. Watch Doctor Who at 7. Start date 8:30. Get back to house a 11:15... have fun at 11:30...hehe Whenever you feel ready to have sex is when you should have sex. I rather not put a time line since it is different for everyone.However, I think knowing someone for about 4 weeks will be good timing.
Casablanca Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 About 10pm on Saturday should be good. 7pm would be too early as it clashes with Doctor Who on tv. I agree with this statement Dr. Who > Sex
coolheadal Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 I've broken all my 27 steps what not to do but hey I was only human! I couldn't control myself and if you were in my situation on that first night which was a Sunday you would have done the same. In all I can't complain... I've moved her into my house and the rest is history.. If she's willing and your willing then go for it! Otherwise wait it out! But don't wait to long..
bluenightowl Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 This is a very general question I know. Of course one should always go with his/her heart and when he/she feels comfortable and ready. Having a protection/STD conversation is also essential. So let's say you are looking for someone to have a long term relationship with (hopefully leading to marriage). You meet someone and you two really like each other and have talked about all the important stuff. Oh and you are adults in your thirties. When is a good/average/safe time to have sex with someone? For us ladies we have to worry about seeming easy and all. Do guys like when the girl makes them wait a while? And guys, if you come on to strong physically that can for sure turn a woman off and make her think you are looking for a good time. I guess I just want to see what you all think. There really is no right or wrong answer as this is highly individualized. I think after 4 dates you could have sex, but the waiting longer is better. It will just strengthen the trust part. It also really depends how long you knew each other before dating. If you didn't know each other before dating, wait longer, but if you were co-workers or friends etc before, then 4 dates would be fine. Just make sure you both are not seeing anyone else, but it sounds like that is clear from your post.
Cypress25 Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 WHENEVER YOU WANT! God, these questions are so dumb. And it's not even a teenager asking this time. The answer is different for everyone because everyone is different. Figure out what works for you.
Hot Chick Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 The guy who wrote He's Just Not That Into You says wait a month (at the very least.) He says longer than that is even better. I agree with him. People forget that getting naked is the most intimate thing you can do with someone, and it shouldn't be done so lightly. Get to know the person and get a relationship going.
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