grkBoy Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 So what's stopping any of you guys from becoming this? Seriously.
Cracker Jack Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 I'm still learning, honestly. It's not easy, but that's to be expected.
Author grkBoy Posted September 28, 2011 Author Posted September 28, 2011 I'm still learning, honestly. It's not easy, but that's to be expected. Step 1. Look and dress the part. Go look at the male celebrities women are drooling over. Not saying you need to become an athletic adonis, but how are they dressed? Are you obese or something like that?
OldSkool Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Why not just be a good man? A good man doesn't have to be a bad boy because; 1. He is not insecure. 2. He already gets enough female attention from women who actually respect themselves.
Untouchable_Fire Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Step 1. Look and dress the part. Go look at the male celebrities women are drooling over. Not saying you need to become an athletic adonis, but how are they dressed? Are you obese or something like that? Putting a leather jacket on won't make women suddenly think your a baddass. It's an attitude shift... and can be damn hard for some guys to do. I'm a selfish prick... so it sorta comes naturally to me. The bigger struggle is being kind and understanding.
Cracker Jack Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 I'm 5'8" and weigh about 180. I'm not where I would like to be physically, but I do work out a lot and I'm far from obese. My dressing style could use some tuning, but my personality needs to change if I want to make this change.
Feelsgoodman Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 So what's stopping any of you guys from becoming this? Seriously. Cause it doesn't work that way. To be a 'bad boy', you have to learn to treat women badly (not all the time, but at least some of the time, in order to give them the emotional roller-coaster experience they crave). But if you do that, you will no longer be a 'good man'.
ascendotum Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Putting a leather jacket on won't make women suddenly think your a baddass. It's an attitude shift... and can be damn hard for some guys to do. I'm a selfish prick... so it sorta comes naturally to me. The bigger struggle is being kind and understanding. Agree with this. Its just not an easy transformation for many guys. To a degree its a lifestyle change, a change in perspective, in attitude, confidence. I would wager that natural 'bad boys' have higher levels of testosterone and possibly dopamine/other neurotransmitters. Do you think a guy like Howard from the Big Bang Theory show, could easily transform himself to be a 'bad boy'. I was never a 'bad boy', but my attitude definitely changed thanks to weight lifting. With the physical change I was able to anchor a new mindset from, it made it easier to say I am not the same guy I was before (skinny, low confidence). Without the physical change it was hard to do. Also there's nothing like getting success to feel better about yourself thats further helps fuel success. Its hard to kick start though. I definitely agree with you on 'dress the part', if at the minimum.
AD1980 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Because i dont put on facades..Secondly its not as simple as that..Women lie the image of the good looking "bad boy from movies thats extremely good looking just putting the image on itself isnt gonna get you women ..Some fat or ugly man tryign to be a bad boy is just gonna be looked at as a creep.. if you're good looking then you can afford to be aloof or a jerk..
Eddie Edirol Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 I do it all the time. I do the clothes, but I can do the bad boy traits without being a manipulative jerk. Its easy... let the women initiate the escalation of the relationship, they want to work for you Stay unpredictable dont be a pushover or too easy (dont be too difficult either) be interesting Challenge them with many things Give them your heart one drip at a time. Dont tell them absolutely everything about you in the beginning. This is what they really want, You dont have to play games to do it.
fortyninethousand322 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 So what's stopping any of you guys from becoming this? Seriously. Well, I don't honestly know what "being a good man packaged as a bad boy" is really. Heck, I don't even know what I am now aside from what I think/believe, what I like and what I like to do. I could be described as a nerd/geek just as easily as I could be described as a jock. And I even have my "bad boy" moments too, but it melts away as soon as I get around an attractive (not just in terms of looks) single girl.
Author grkBoy Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Do you think a guy like Howard from the Big Bang Theory show, could easily transform himself to be a 'bad boy' How about if Leonard Hofstadter fixed up his hair and dressed like Johnny Depp? Would Penny suddenly find him hotter more instantly? I know it's also the attitude, but it's amazing how much a change in fashion can boost a man's confidence. That's my point. If you guys are honestly good nice gentlemen...then why not try to "package" yourself as what women want, but be the EXCEPTION they dream of? Like the guy who looks GQ but loves and respects her, rather than just looking for a fling? That was my point. I keep pushing the fashion thing today because I honestly believe it can do a lot not only to turn heads but build your own confidence and thus help you in the social situations.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Cause it doesn't work that way. To be a 'bad boy', you have to learn to treat women badly (not all the time, but at least some of the time, in order to give them the emotional roller-coaster experience they crave). But if you do that, you will no longer be a 'good man'. Exactly. A good "bad boy" is an oxymoron.
Emilia Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 How do you define 'bad boy' and ' treating women badly'?
Stockalone Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 So what's stopping any of you guys from becoming this? Seriously. "Do what works" is usually not a bad idea if you want women to like you. That said, I wanted to remain who I was instead of changing into something/someone I couldn't identify with, even though women liked the new me.
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