lovesickpuppy Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 My ex dumped me a week ago, since then I have maintained no contact. During this time he has called me 'accidentally' text me lots of times.. Then I get a text saying 'Can we still talk I miss you' I replied with 'Unless you want to get back together, please do not contact me' He replied with 'Okay, sorry to bother you'....... I then keep getting texts late at night, not normal texts but flirty ones saying things like 'If you ever contact me I've kept your number hehehe' I'm so confused?? I know it's only been a week, but are these good signs that he's missing me and regretting finishing me? He ended this relationship out of the blue over us 'arguing' we had a perfect relationship and argued once a week if that about such childish things? Advice please, why is he still texting me when I've told him not to bother unless he wants to reconcile? Personally I think this is a good sign..?
Eddie Edirol Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 I think he has been shopping for a new gf, but isnt very successful, and he is trying to keep you on the hook. He also might miss talking to you platonically, might be in a bit of withdrawal because hes bored, but isnt missing you romantically. Plus everyone wants something they cant have. You did the right thing by cutting him off. He broke up with you because he didnt want to be with you romantically, but he wants to keep in touch just for his selfish curiosity, nothing more. So its not a sign of anything good, yet, until he says he wants to try again. So he'll keep texting you to see if he has any power over you, to see if you will be there waiting. So dont answer him. if he keeps bugging you, you say the same thing. "Dont contact me unless you want to get back together."
Author lovesickpuppy Posted September 28, 2011 Author Posted September 28, 2011 Thank you for the advice, I have been telling myself that it hasn't quite hit him yet that I am serious about moving on. I think he wants his cake and to eat it too! I've also told myself that until he realises I am serious, these texts don't mean anything.
DustySaltus Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Every time he "accidentally" texts you, think of it as pull on the end of the fishing rod by him to see if he still has you on the hook. Eddie said it right, he may want to do something with you physically if things fizzle out for him but not emotionally. The best response is no response. Then, if he comes beating down your door saying that he made a HUGE mistake, you have something to think about....otherwise, leave it alone and stick to NC.
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