maysj18 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 I began talking with this guy on campus a few weeks ago. We texted a lot over the course lf a few days finding out more about each other. He would always make an effort to hang out, even if it was just sitting with me in the library. We just hung out as friends but we both stated we were interested. Well one night he was up in my room and we were talking about one of the sororities on campus and a few names came up. He made a comment about one of them and how they had sort of fooled around. The fact that he said that wasn't weird but everyone knows this girl is nasty. Granted, we all have pasts so I didn't think much of it although it kinda made me cringe. Later that night we were texting about what I wanted in a relationship. Basically I said that I just want something natural with someone I can trust, and he assured me i wouldn't have to worry because he wasn't a slut. I then said "come on, you were with that girl werent you?" As soon as I said it I felt AWFUL. I really was just kidding and i told him that but i feel like it hurt his feelings because he said he had to go. That was on a Friday and then that Saturday we talked a bit and he invited me to a party and then back to his room. Our plans fell through though because I got caught up in something and he was passed out by the time i got there. Since then, we haven't talked much at all. A few texts here and there and a little small talk if we see each other. My question is, does it sound like he's not interested anymore? Could this be because of what i said? I realize it was a huge mistake and i feel so bad about it. He doesn't use his phone much, so I feel like I may also be overthinking it because I'm the type who always has ky phone on me. He also plays college football so he's always busy. I just don't know whats going on.
Nexus One Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 A guy doesn't lose interest that fast, but it's possible he was bothered by the comment you made in the sense that you possibly misjudged his character. However, piece of advice, don't just go with what people say. Of course people are hardly ever going to "advertise" themselves as a slut or a player. You have to get a feeling for the character of guys. The thing he said about fooling around with that other girl can either mean two things. a) He wanted to make you jealous. b) Or he wanted to be transparent with you. The latter case would good in my opinion. It's also important to note how he reflects on that, but like I said, some people talk different from the way they act.
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