aliasbk Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 My ex and I broke up about a month ago or so and after a while apart I started getting all these mixed signals from her. We have to see each other a couple times a week due to something neither of us can avoid. She has been flirting with me, teasing me, etc. then when we are away I don't hear anything from her except for the occasional text with some random question or something. Then the next time I see her she is all flirty again. After a few weeks of flirting I decided I would try and ask her out to lunch for a Friday on Friday morning just to hang. no pressure to talk or anything. I don't want her to think I want to talk about the relationship. She said she was busy, which could be real. I didn't give her very much time to think on it or anything. Who knows? I said OK that fine maybe later. She said OK. then it was back to flirting. So I wait another week and tried again today. I asked her if she would like to grab a bite or something Thursday afternoon after an appointment I know she has or Friday if she was not busy. She said Oh, I'm kinda busy with appointments. I cant. I acted fine said its OK, she said I'm sorry, I said its OK I understand, she said she was so sorry again. I again said it was OK, the she apologized again. I said it fine maybe we can do it later. She said OK. Whats with all the confusion and what's with the apologizing?(considering I didn't look upset when she said no) Why would she keep saying OK when I say maybe later instead of something like I don't think that's a good idea or No?
antz2411 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 dood, what mixed signals are you talking about? its very clear she doesn't want to give you her time. she rejected you what?? 2-3 times? and you're telling her "OK" you're telling her its "ok for her to reject you every time you ask!" maybe if you start acting like a man she would oblige. a man is never "OK" with rejection. just saying
KathyM Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 My ex and I broke up about a month ago or so and after a while apart I started getting all these mixed signals from her. We have to see each other a couple times a week due to something neither of us can avoid. She has been flirting with me, teasing me, etc. then when we are away I don't hear anything from her except for the occasional text with some random question or something. Then the next time I see her she is all flirty again. After a few weeks of flirting I decided I would try and ask her out to lunch for a Friday on Friday morning just to hang. no pressure to talk or anything. I don't want her to think I want to talk about the relationship. She said she was busy, which could be real. I didn't give her very much time to think on it or anything. Who knows? I said OK that fine maybe later. She said OK. then it was back to flirting. So I wait another week and tried again today. I asked her if she would like to grab a bite or something Thursday afternoon after an appointment I know she has or Friday if she was not busy. She said Oh, I'm kinda busy with appointments. I cant. I acted fine said its OK, she said I'm sorry, I said its OK I understand, she said she was so sorry again. I again said it was OK, the she apologized again. I said it fine maybe we can do it later. She said OK. Whats with all the confusion and what's with the apologizing?(considering I didn't look upset when she said no) Why would she keep saying OK when I say maybe later instead of something like I don't think that's a good idea or No? You know, I think she's enjoying keeping you emotionally attached and wanting her, and that is why she is flirting, and she's also enjoying the power she feels in turning you down. If she really was intending to go out with you, she would suggest an alternate time to go out if she was not available at the time you suggested. I think she's playing you. Time to quit asking for a date and time to put that relationship in the past and move on to someone who isn't playing games with you.
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