1 day of NC and he contacts me, do i contact him back? We do have a child together

[momto3boys]

I did not contact my soon to be ex-husband at all yesterday. He has been so mean to me after telling me he wants a divorce that he told me to just leave him a lone, dont call him. He told me that i annoy him and that he wants me to date so i wont bother him. (i of course cant date im pregnant! and im not ready yet), then he told me everyone else is more important to him than me. He said he has anger issues from being in the army and me calling him just made his anger worse. He said hearing my voice did nothing but piss him off. so we agreed to contact through email. If he wanted to talk to our son (whos almost 3) to email me and id have him call him. He could also be calling because he could be filing for something, but really im just not ready to talk to him. What should i do?

[Mme. Chaucer]

I haven't read your other threads, so I might not have all the info, but if you have a child with him and are pregnant with another, some ground rules are going to have to be put in place immediately. He does have parental rights.

 

Do you have a lawyer yet? If you are really getting a divorce, then you should get one right away, as should he.

 

Mediation is also a possibility.

 

Get the ground rules in place so that he can have contact and information about his children, and no other communication without the mediator or lawyers.

 

No contact is for breaking up, but when there are kids involved, things can't be so simple.

[momto3boys]

We both agreed we would not file anything until our 2nd child is born. So right now we both sort of agreed we were both angry and needed time to cool off before filing for anything. So we have not filed anything.

 

He is also in North Carolina and i am in Maryland so we really do not have a real reason to stay in contact. We had made an agreement that he'd email me to get our son to call him. I ended up calling him back and he said he called to talk to our son. Our son talked to him for about 2 seconds and i told my ex that i think itd be best if we communicate and set up times and days (since he is in the army and works crazy hours) that he should email me the times he is off and the days and time he'd like to talk to our son. So he said ok and we hung up. He normally doesnt even call to see how our son is, so its shocking he did today. Least he is planning on staying invoved in our sons life which is good. That was a part of our relationship problems. He is never there, doesnt help with the kids, etc.