StellaA Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 It's been nearly months now but only has real NC for about the last 3 weeks. I have seen him to wave to but not spoken. I think about him all the time. I have just purchased some books which hopefully will help. How did I not see it coming? There is a chance my ex may also be bipolar but he is not on medication. I don't know whether the stress of our relationship was too much. I thought he loved me, still do but he couldn't cope with the next step and freaked out. Will he realise in time that he has made a mistake. It's hard to accept a break up when the love is still there but other things get in the way! Is love enough.....I don't think he is coming back.
leoc1973 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 How long were you guys together? What else is in the way? If a guy loves you and I mean truly loves you then nothing can stand in the way. A guy will wreck his whole life to be with a woman that he truly loves. I mean as long as you didn't cheat.
TheDovic Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 If he's bipolar then there's a chance he could change his mind because as you may know when a person with this disorder is going through a period of mania they will make rash decisions. Conversely when they're low they will see no hope so there's a chance he dumped you when he was high but can't see any hope of getting you back / see the relationship working if he is now low! I could be completely wrong here but my logic is sound! If he does come back however you need to make sure he goes to therapy and goes on medication because this is a devastating illness which can destroy relationships and families.
Author StellaA Posted September 28, 2011 Author Posted September 28, 2011 I don't think he will be back. It does have the 'highs' but no so much of the 'lows'. I think he is happy to try and live a stress free life to try and avoid having any future episodes. I don't know how long the episodes last for, it has been 3 months now and I don't see any change in him changing his mind but then again I know nothing about the illness really apart from what I have read. I want to be there for him but he doesn't want me to and I have decided I need to give him space and try and move on for my own self aswell. I miss him but I can't change how he feels.
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