thebig-guy Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Hi, been a complete week since officially being dumped by my ex, story here - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t299757/ and im still waking up in dread! Its the worst feeling ever! Worse that realising you have a job interview! Although im getting more sleep now and eating more, i still feel like these mornings will ruine the NC i started yesterday to get over here. I mean im even signed in skype waiting for her to come online even though im not going to speak with her. I just want to see her come online! This is a joke...I need to get this b**ch out my head fast.
bigmomma1974 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Healing takes time and its not going to be done over night nor in a week. Its good you sleeping and eating more thats a plus. in the mornings when you wake up can you exercise, or something to keep your mind off her and log out of skype no need to put yourself through that torture. I dont know if you can but block her and delete her. find ways to stay busy it will help you with the lonely times.
Author thebig-guy Posted September 28, 2011 Author Posted September 28, 2011 thanks for that. well ive decided to sign out of skype and not put myself through that torture. Although i need to keep her added so i can sort out her belongings :/ to be honest though i think the only thing that can take my mind off her are other pretty girls. although they are few and far between at the moment :/
TheDovic Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 I think that's one of the worst things to cope with. My ex is hot too and I'm afraid I won't be happy with someone who isn't as attractive. I know that's really shallow but it's true! I bought a book called "I can mend your broken heart" by Paul McKenna that has a hypnosis cd with it. I've been listening to the cd for about a week now and my feelings towards my ex aren't just as intense so maybe this could help you
Author thebig-guy Posted September 28, 2011 Author Posted September 28, 2011 i may have to try that! been watching alot of videos on youtube. and they actually help. I know this girl is beautiful, and she used to be a glamour model. But i keep blocking out the fact she is a diva and very demanding... or at least she was. I think i might make a log on my mornings just to see how i feel when i wake up every day..
TheDovic Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 i may have to try that! been watching alot of videos on youtube. and they actually help. I know this girl is beautiful, and she used to be a glamour model. But i keep blocking out the fact she is a diva and very demanding... or at least she was. I think i might make a log on my mornings just to see how i feel when i wake up every day.. That might not be a bad idea dude. Plus I think it's ok to be upset and not see much hope at this stage, it's early days!!! Keep talking to friends, come on here and vent / ask for advice and read. I never read anything before getting dumped but try anything that'll help me move on.
Author thebig-guy Posted September 28, 2011 Author Posted September 28, 2011 Well i had a liberating crying session last night. only lasted about 5 minutes but i actually felt better afterwards ! heres a quick log on how ive been sleeping: Day 1 after breakup: 3 hours sleep, woke up about 5 times thinking about what i did wrong Day 2: Same as day 1 Day 3: Same as day 1 Day 4: Spoke to her as 'friends' and so slept longer (4 hours) still woke up with extremely bad feelings of regret Day 5: 6 hours sleep, woke up twice with negative feelings about the breakup Day 6: Had a night away in london, couldnt sleep, and so text her asking to take her out. Woke up 4 times with no reply Day 7: Slept around 7 hours due to lack or sleep, woke up twice with bad feelings. Day 8: Slept 8 hours! Woke up once with regret but shortly got back to sleep
TheDovic Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Good for you dude. And crying really does help! Basic human physiology: When we're too hot we sweat and it cools us down, but when we're too stressed, anxious or emotionally distressed we cry and this reduces these feelings. So even if you don't feel like crying, try because it physically reduces these feelings! (Maybe look online, there's some tips to induce crying) Secondly with the sleeping there seems to be progress no matter how small. Get used to the waking up though, I'm still doing it two and a half months later, but as with you it's not as often as it was.
MIK1000 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 I had a dream about her/the break up just about every night for the first couple of weeks. It made waking up horrible because you I had just been speaking to her in my dreams. It passed though and 2 or 3 weeks later I don't dream about her at all and I sleep fine.
mike588 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Hi, been a complete week since officially being dumped by my ex, story here - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t299757/ and im still waking up in dread! Its the worst feeling ever! Worse that realising you have a job interview! Although im getting more sleep now and eating more, i still feel like these mornings will ruine the NC i started yesterday to get over here. I mean im even signed in skype waiting for her to come online even though im not going to speak with her. I just want to see her come online! This is a joke...I need to get this b**ch out my head fast. I know how you feel. The mornings are tough for me too. I wake up wanting to email her (5 weeks into N.C.) but I'm glad I haven't, you should'nt either. Give it time. I does get better!
dreamcity Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 The mornings are the worst for me. I wake up with a nasty hollow feeling in my stomach. Get a new skype account. You can keep her on the old one if you need to get in touch for some reason. Anyway, that's what my ex has done to me, the b&st@^#!
Viv Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Me too, mornings are horrible, it's such a struggle to get up. Does anyone know why they are so bad, if it's something chemical in the brain?
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