JT_3 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 I met this girl about five years ago and we both recall having a special "moment" when we first saw each other. She was dating my best friend though, so we never talked or pursued anything. Well, last year we started hanging out. She just got out of a relationship and wanted to just "have fun" and be single. Well, she had fun, but didn't stay single. We had a few moments where it seemed like the stars were aligning, but nothing ever happened, because she said she wasn't sure how she felt about me and that she was scared to pursue anything as serious as what she thought we could have together. Well, at some point we got together. Then she broke up with me after one month, because she said she really thought she needed to be single and focus on herself. But alas it didn't take but three days and we were back together. She said she realized that she really loved me and wanted to be with me. After a few months her parents made a crack at us needing to get married. Well, we thought about it and so we became engaged. There were doubts in both of us, but we seemed happy. Then we moved in with each other. Money issues and only having one car started to put a strain on our relationship. We weren't happy anymore. I know I wasn't. We always argued and eventually we decided not to get married and to move back in with our parents and see how we felt. Well, on my side things were getting better. I got my car and space and I had the girl of my dreams. On her end she was still stressed. Her homelife was stressful etc. Then she came out with the same story. Not sure how she loves me and wanted to be single. We broke up and its been about 3 weeks now. Whenever I try to close the relationship she always gets really upset and says that we never know what could happen in the future. She had originally wanted to take a break, but I was so angry I broke up with her. When I tried to go back to the break idea, she didn't want to. I love this girl more than I ever thought I could love someone. I believe my anger during our living together really pushed her away. I'm not seeing her or talking to her unless I have to. I want to get over this enough so that if time does me well, I can sweep her off her feet and start things off the way they should have been. I mean all of our friends say there is still something there and I should just give it time and try and live my life. We are so young and everything I guess we need to figure ourselves out before committing to something to serious. Not everyone was born to marry there sweetheart at 20.
TheDovic Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Don't think this is personal towards you dude, I believe it's the pressure on her! This is what happened with me. My relationship was amazing until we moved in together and got engaged, then the real world started pounding us down! Eventually she had enough (she's young too - 23) and broke up with me but doesn't stop calling and flirting. My point is this, it's likely your ex does love you but is terrified about making such a big commitment so soon. This is actually classic behaviour for younger girlfriends on this site and is extremely common. It's been named the "Grass is Greener Syndrome." Here, read the following link and it might make a lot of sense to you http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t251986/
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