GoodHeart1981 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Long story short: I thought a guy liked me based on what I interpreted as flirtation, I genuinely believed this. Today, I have doubts. I need to be over this. I've been inside of my own head for too long and it's unhealthy. It's distracting and affecting my behavior. Advice? I don't want to even hang on to hope that there's something there. I just want to move on. I need help with this.
Dust Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Well what have you been doing inside your head? Who is waiting to come out and play?
Author GoodHeart1981 Posted September 28, 2011 Author Posted September 28, 2011 Well what have you been doing inside your head? Who is waiting to come out and play? Too much thinking, and no one. That's the problem.
Dust Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Too much thinking, and no one. That's the problem. Stop thinking so much and go out and enjoy yourself. You’re never really alone.
Trolly Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Just to be clear, even though he wasn't flirting with you, has he expressed that he's not interested in you?
Kindaconfused_77 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Get your ass out of home, avoid being alone, because its when you are on your own when the demons come and before you realize it you have spent the whole day going round and round in circles in your own head. I’ve been there. The key is to break your routine, nag some friends to go out for a meal, a drink, a movie or try joining some kind of activity you usually don’t do, something you’ll enjoy and make you feel better about yourself. If it’s something where you will meet other people all the better! But honestly, even if you don’t feel up to it GET OUT AND DO SOMETHING to distract yourself, staying in at home alone is the worst thing you can do right now. In time you’ll learn to move on and have new things and activities to fill your life with.
Author GoodHeart1981 Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 Just to be clear, even though he wasn't flirting with you, has he expressed that he's not interested in you? No, but he hasn't really given any inkling that he actually gives a crap either. haha I keep telling myself that I'm over him. I'm straight out declaring to myself day after day that I'm going to just move on and forget I ever felt this way but every time I do that, it's like he starts paying attention to me and then I'm back at square one. It's no spectacular attention but it's enough to keep me circling the drain and not just washing this mess away. For example; after I made this post, we ended up hanging out and it was totally random. And his suggestion no less. It was nice, I couldn't even believe it actually happened especially since I had decided to move on but I can't read too much into it because he could have suggested that situation to anyone. Right now, I honestly think he has something going with another girl (please don't ask how I know or think this) and that kind of helps me say that "I'm done." I mean, I feel like if he was actually interested in me that he would say something or try harder. Then again, so could I but because of my paralyzing fear of rejection, this is something I can't bring myself to do. He seems so comfortable around other girls and that's why I feel somewhat defeated in the whole thing. I'm starting to think that maybe it was all in my head, but of all the "crushes" I've had in my life, nothing has ever felt this tangible. This is honestly nothing but a stupid crush (and one sided probably) and it's just affecting me too much. This could all be solved if I'd just go out on the ledge and maybe let him know that I'm interested in getting to know him better but, I really don't see myself being able to do that. Maybe this energy would be better spent on a brand new guy. Perhaps one that might approach me that I'm semi-attracted to. At least I'll know he sees I exist. It started out so fun now it's just a nightmare. HAHA Whoever reads this, thank you.
greenfin3 Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 "If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things" - Albert Einstein I feel for ya girl. Keep your head up, focus on yourself & your life, and just look at every "mistake" as a lesson that makes you stronger.
Author GoodHeart1981 Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 "If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things" - Albert Einstein I feel for ya girl. Keep your head up, focus on yourself & your life, and just look at every "mistake" as a lesson that makes you stronger. Lord knows I'm trying. haha Thank you.
Author GoodHeart1981 Posted October 4, 2011 Author Posted October 4, 2011 Get your ass out of home, avoid being alone, because its when you are on your own when the demons come and before you realize it you have spent the whole day going round and round in circles in your own head. I’ve been there. The key is to break your routine, nag some friends to go out for a meal, a drink, a movie or try joining some kind of activity you usually don’t do, something you’ll enjoy and make you feel better about yourself. If it’s something where you will meet other people all the better! But honestly, even if you don’t feel up to it GET OUT AND DO SOMETHING to distract yourself, staying in at home alone is the worst thing you can do right now. In time you’ll learn to move on and have new things and activities to fill your life with. Thank you also. That's very good advice. Every moment spent thinking about anything else is great.
Johnny85 Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 It started out so fun now it's just a nightmare. HAHA Whoever reads this, thank you. I know exactly how you feel; I am in the same situation as you, but I am a guy! I hate the idea of rejection also:laugh: Have you considered online dating? Seeing as you're a girl, I think it would give you an ego boost
Trolly Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 I guess i'm just typically persistent almost to the point of being stubborn. Usually I get what i want otherwise i'd say i'm completely stubborn. That's not to say that when i have something that it always end up being all that I thought it would be. Perhaps I am just plain stubborn then...
Author GoodHeart1981 Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 "If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things" - Albert Einstein I feel for ya girl. Keep your head up, focus on yourself & your life, and just look at every "mistake" as a lesson that makes you stronger. I totally agree. I'm doing my best every day to not throw pity parties for myself and so far, that actually works. No matter what happens [or doesn't happen] I'm learning a lot from this experience. I'm glad it's happening. I had a good couple of days in trying to wean myself off of this "situation" but I feel like I keep getting sucked back in. It's like a mental drug habit or something equally draining. It actually distracts me at odd times during my day when I need not be distracted. Meh.
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