abuckeyeleaf Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Here is my breakup story, http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t299694/. Long winded, but it sets the stage. Before the emotional abuse-fest last week, I had told him I would be up in his area today for an interview and afterward would stop by to arrange the plane ticket and he could pay me for it. Well I texted him Sunday just asking him to mail me a check and my costco card (sadly our costo membership outlived our relationship). He said okay, that was that. Well today I had my interview (think I aced it too!) and I had found some of his clothes in my laundry, so I put them in a bag and after my interview I stopped by his work and left the bag on his car. Two hours later I get a text: "were you in *insert town name*" Me: Yes Him: Did you leave a bag on my car? Me: Clearly Him: Wish you had told me, I would have given you the check and card Me: I didn't see a need for us to see each other Him: Are you still in the area? Me: No. Is it that big of a deal to just mail them? And then he APOLOGIZED For the hateful things he said last week. He ended that text by saying "I guess it's never easy to break up with someone." What I WANTED to say was "yeah but you can do it without being hateful. But instead, I ignored the apology because I'm not accepting it. Me: If it's really a big deal to mail them then I'll pick them up next week Him: I have a couple things of yours including your shirt Me: If i have time next week you can meet me somewhere and give them to me Him: Can you bring my DVDs? Not the ones I bought for you, just the two I picked out. Me: ok Funny thing is, I told him when he came to get his things that I didn't need anything I left at his place and he could throw it away. It almost seems like now that he can't count on seeing me and sees on my facebook that I'm out having fun, that now he is trying to make excuses. I will be in the area for an appointment next week, I just don't know what to do. I need the money for the plane ticket, no doubt. And I'd like to have the shirt back in all honesty. Is he making excuses to see me? What do you all think?
magnus mateo Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Both of you are making excuses to see each other.
geegirl Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 You can be adamant about him mailing your check, card and shirt. All USPS worthy. I believe you even left his bag of clothes on his car for a reaction. In any case, you are making an excuse to see him. You already know what he's trying to do.
TheDovic Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Yes, definitely seems like he's looking for an excuse. If he didn't want to see you he'd simply have posted your things!
TheDovic Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 I just read your other post and this guy seems like bad news, and he appears to be using you until someone else comes along... or maybe he was just saying those things in anger, but the reality is he has a temper and says very nasty things. Do you really want someone like that in your life? ps, whatever happened with your other ex (your soul mate). Is there any hope for you two i.e. would you take him back if he asked?
Author abuckeyeleaf Posted September 28, 2011 Author Posted September 28, 2011 I just read your other post and this guy seems like bad news, and he appears to be using you until someone else comes along... or maybe he was just saying those things in anger, but the reality is he has a temper and says very nasty things. Do you really want someone like that in your life? ps, whatever happened with your other ex (your soul mate). Is there any hope for you two i.e. would you take him back if he asked? I'll always love that guy on some level, but I've realized it's not going to work. He's got committment issues and I waiting far too long for him to come around before I moved on and started seeing my new ex.
Author abuckeyeleaf Posted September 28, 2011 Author Posted September 28, 2011 You can be adamant about him mailing your check, card and shirt. All USPS worthy. I believe you even left his bag of clothes on his car for a reaction. In any case, you are making an excuse to see him. You already know what he's trying to do. You're somewhat right. On some level I was maybe looking for a reaction. Part of me just wanted to be rid of his things, like a weight off of my shoulders. I guess I just left his things without speaking to him because I wanted to get the point across that I don't want to see you. Granted, I couldn't mail his clothes because I don't remember his mailing address, it's an apartment complex and his unit number is like 7 digits long, never bothered memorizing it. But really I'm trying to figure out his motive and I'm at a loss, and was looking for some perspective from the board.
Author abuckeyeleaf Posted September 28, 2011 Author Posted September 28, 2011 Both of you are making excuses to see each other. How so? I made it a point to NOT see him by leaving his things on his car. idk why he wants to see me, he CHOSE to break up. Unless me ignoring him and seeing my facebook about how much fun I'm having is getting to him.
Author abuckeyeleaf Posted September 28, 2011 Author Posted September 28, 2011 So what do you all think his motive is for wanting to see me?
dreamcity Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 I also commented on your other post... Anyway, yes, he is making excuses to see you. Whether you go through with it or not should be dictated by how you feel, and not by what everyone here says. I'm seeing my ex on Friday after he came up with some excuse that he needs my help to make a video of an event he's doing. I know seeing him may set back my recovery a bit... but frankly I'm not in a recovery mood anyway and I want to be friends (hehe, maybe with the odd benefit, we'll see).
Author abuckeyeleaf Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 You're braver than I, Dreamcity. I couldn't have that wreaking havoc on my emotions. Although I'm half tempted to show up at his place to get my things, have my way with him, then leave without saying anything while he's in the bathroom or something. Sweet revenge! I don't know what kind of can of worms that would open though...
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