sweet_peach115 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 For anyone who doesn't know my story, read here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t298466/ I met with the ex tonight. It was the first time we have seen each other since we exchanged stuff back at the beginning of the summer. It was a bit awkward as neither of us really knew what to say and it seemed as though we were both dancing around the topic of "are you seeing anyone new". I thought we would spend the night talking about our feelings but we both seemed to avoid it. Finally at the end of our meeting I gave in and asked him if he had someone new. He looked at the floor and said "yes, but only for like a fews weeks or a month. I'm so busy lately though, I barely have time for her". My stomach dropped at that moment. Then as we were leaving he asked me if I wanted to go out for a beer with him tomorrow night. He drove me to my apartment and we hugged for a really long time and I told him I miss him. He said he really misses me too and kissed me on the cheek. If he doesn't even have time for the girl he is seeing, how can he spare 2 nights in a row for me?? Should I see tomorrow night as just friends hanging out or him trying to figure out what he is doing or what??? I'm confused. I had a whole plan of telling him exactly what I want and how I'm feeling but for some reason I just didn't. I think I knew deep down he already had someone and thats why I didn't. I feel like a moron.
leoc1973 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 Ok I don't want you to take this and then string the guy along once you know but he is still in love with you! If he took the chance of blowing off a new girl 2 nights in a row then you win! I did this for my ex actually only one night and blew it with the new girl cause she found out. Good luck and if you want your man back go get him before this new girl gets any more hurt.
TLCbear Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 If he doesn't even have time for the girl he is seeing, how can he spare 2 nights in a row for me?? Should I see tomorrow night as just friends hanging out or him trying to figure out what he is doing or what??? I'm confused. I had a whole plan of telling him exactly what I want and how I'm feeling but for some reason I just didn't. I think I knew deep down he already had someone and thats why I didn't. I feel like a moron. Be careful, he may be trying to have both of you or just trying to keep you around for an easy lay. I can't tell you how many times I have heard of this happening. Or he could be trying to get back with you on a serious note. I suggest you find out what his unlying intentions are.
leoc1973 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 she broke up with him tho. So I am thinking that maybe he might want her back.
TheDovic Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 It seems clear he's still into you, otherwise he wouldn't have asked you out! Plus this other girl is a rebound, because if he were serious about her he would have time for her and he wouldn't be spending time with his ex
TLCbear Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 she broke up with him tho. So I am thinking that maybe he might want her back. It doesn't matter who broke up with who, we don't know for sure what this guy's intentions are. For all we know, he may be lying to her about the new girl. It best for her to find out what his intentions are before getting her hopes up.
antz2411 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 It doesn't matter who broke up with who, we don't know for sure what this guy's intentions are. For all we know, he may be lying to her about the new girl. It best for her to find out what his intentions are before getting her hopes up. its obvious what his intentions are, this guy wants to rail both these chicks for his own selfish needs. sweet have some self worth and move on! as a woman you should have enough respect for yourself to leave when your ex has been with another women regardless if you guys were broken up or not at the time. if you refuse to show respect for yourself he'll see it and capitalize on it. holy crap! i cant believe you refuse to see this lol
Author sweet_peach115 Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 well I guess it doesn't really matter because he cancelled on me at almost the last minute.. Said maybe we can go out next week. ............ I'm questioning if he never wanted to go out at all last night even though it was his idea.
Cowboy1015 Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 You're the one who broke up with him. Maybe he wants to hear from you that you want him back. You need at least to give him some sign.
Author sweet_peach115 Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 I thought I had. I need some guidance
TheDovic Posted September 29, 2011 Posted September 29, 2011 Nightmare Sweet Peach! This happened to me a few weeks ago. My ex had been wanting to call round, and when I finally gave in she was "too busy." She then asked to call a different night but I said no. If he brings it up again answer "maybe" but don't set a date. If he gives you a specific date be busy that night! Make him chase you a bit as right now he prob thinks he can have u when he wants. My ex thought that... she doesn't now! She actually showed up at my house last nite with a crap excuse for calling. She then cried the entire time she was there about how I don't have time for HER!!! (this was a girl who was pretty cold and distant towards me not so long ago).
Cowboy1015 Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 I thought I had. I need some guidance I suggest just go tell him what you feel.
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