mshummy88 Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 With this, it’s probably the typical break-up/coping topic about ex-girlfriends but I just need some personal advice and a helping hand through this. This has hit me at a different level and just need to hear from outside sources. This is also my first year away for college and I just feel lost with this situation. The Ex-girlfriend and I dated for just a little under five years. In April 2010 we broke up and saw different people until we got back together in August 2011. She asked me back with a stuffed animal penguin (my favorite animal) and she asked if I would be hers again. I agreed because I wanted “us” again and I love her dearly, she said that she realized she wanted me and doesn’t want to lose me. Well middle/end of August she went away to college in Iowa and I moved to Chicago for school as well (first time going away for school). We both agreed to skype and call whenever we could but with her being in soccer and taking many classes the only time we talked was through text…barely. She came home a weekend for a game and I did as well and spend the weekend with her. The first night I slept over and she was texting some guy all night. She fell asleep and I had a weird gut feeling so I read through her texts. It was convo’s of them saying they like each other and inviting each other to sleep over in their dorms. I was pissed and upset and started to leave before she stopped me and asked what was wrong..and I told her. She explained how she “likes him as a person and nothing more because she loved me” and cuddled up with me the rest of the night. Well she went back to school and days went on. Last week she called and it happened. She said shes too stressed out with soccer and school and me, how we don’t talk as much and how I don’t make an effort to talk to her as much either. Also it was about this guy, she likes him and said how she always has a good time when they hang out, how they share a lot of interests and she told me she hasn’t done anything but wants to also break it off just incase so I don’t get hurt and cheated if anything does. So we said goodbyes and she said she still wants to talk and not to loose me because she says when everything “settles” then we can work things out and try again. Afterwards I called up my best friend to vent and he was pissed and wrote on something on her FB wall that pissed her off and she called me up mad/upset crying saying how she doesn’t want to talk to me and that there will never be a chance again (Break up was Wednesday, her not wanting to talk to me was Thursday). Didn’t talk to her all weekend because she had homecoming until I get a text Sunday from her saying “well since you don’t want to talk to me ill let you be. Have a good life and good luck with school”. --Didn’t respond Monday I wake up to a three pg. text saying “well I guess you don’t want to talk to me or work things out so ill let you be because it doesn’t seem like you don’t care or love me anymore. I didn’t want things to turn out this way but I guess it has to..i still love you and care for you…bye” --Didn’t respond again Monday night “Do you not want to talk to me??” --Didn’t respond I saw these all as breadcrumbs and didn’t feel like I needed to respond. So I get a call from her before class and I answered. Conversation went about “howcome I didn’t come out for her homecoming to see her (brokeup and wasn’t invited out),” and how she said I don’t care and that I’ve moved on because I haven’t talked to her or responded and not trying to make it work. When I asked “make what work? You broke up with me” she was quiet and said “nevermind its nothing, I have to go ill maybe call you later…we’ll see.” And that was it. So that leaves me confused/pissed and upset. Any opinions or advice would be great on whats going on and if she calls what's to be said? And thanks for reading /helping out.
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