Pyrannaste Posted May 13, 2004 Posted May 13, 2004 Hi, I am looking for some advice/opinion/sharing of similar experiences once again. This night at 4.00 a.m. my bf -with whom I'm risking to break up in this period- sent me a text message, with a sentence that in italian (my language) can mean either "But.. did you go out tonight?" or "Are you out of your mind of what?". I'm 99,9% sure, given the circumstances, that the correct interpretation is the second one. Well, I read the text message only at 5.30 a.m., I got very worried, thought I'd wait till morning and ask him, but I couldn't sleep and at about 6.10 in the morning I called him. He hung up on me, which is very understandable given the time ...I suppose he didn't even know it was me calling, I guess he just reached out for the cell phone, hung up, and got back to sleep. It already happened when I called him while he was sleeping or taking a nap. And he didn't really mean to hang up on me. Well, then I sent him a text message saying: "hi, what did this night's text message mean?If this is what you were asking, I was at home sleeping, otherwise, can you tell me what I did wrong?". Now it is 8.30 a.m. and my stomach is twitching with anxiety. I feel really bad, I wish it was already later in the morning so i could call him. I am afraid he is angry at me for waking him up at 6.00 a.m. I'd really like to know what has happened that did upset him. My guess is that he got a phone call(just a phone ring and then hunging up) without caller ID, and he thought it was me, while it could have just been his friend Valentina, who often does that kind of stuff. If I sent him a phone call without caller ID he'd have his very good reasons to get annoyed because of an argument we had last week: I let his phone ring once without having my caller ID displayed, while my intention was to have it displayed, in hope he'd call me or text message me. Well, I was clumsy and without meaning to I had my caller ID hidden. It was the very first time in three years I just called and hung up, I usually never do that stuff. Well, next morning I acted like, "why did you not call me back or ring me back? I was worried, I could not sleep" and it turned out that I actually by mistake I had hidden my caller ID so he just thought it was his friend Valentina and did not bother to call back/ring back. He said "how the heck could I have known it was you?" and he was very right here. So if he got another phone ring without callerID he might have thought it was me and got pissed off. Otherwise I have no clue what could have made him write that stuff. Perhaps it is that yesterday I told him " would it be okay if I called you to wish you goodnight later?", he said "call if you want", and I did not because he did not sound enthusiastic at all....he sounded like he'd have rather me not to call. But this makes no sense. I wonder why he is upset with me. :( Do I call him later in the morning?
sportsloving Posted May 13, 2004 Posted May 13, 2004 You sent a text back stating that you wanted the meaning. The next step is his. Harsh and harder than hell, but you can do it. You are strong and you are worth it. And I so very much wish you only happiness
shortbus74 Posted May 13, 2004 Posted May 13, 2004 Okay .... being mean here,,,, WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sweetie... you did nothing wrong if your post is true.... Move on ... you will find someone else who is better for you.,..... I PROMISE!!!!!!!
LILUIL Posted May 13, 2004 Posted May 13, 2004 he sounds like he's cold shouldering you. dont chase after him no matter how "worth it" he is or seems to be. You've done right so far..... leave it be. wait a bit and keep us posted
2ndConfusedfemale Posted May 13, 2004 Posted May 13, 2004 you know that you haven't done anything wrong, and if he wants to act this stupid over what COULD be a misunderstanding then do you really want to be with someone like him? What would happen if you were to have a more serious problem? He knew that you recently had some misunderstandings about the phone, etc. so you would think that he'd take that into consideration before he started acting dumb. How can he get mad at you for calling him early, when he sent the text message early? If he thought that it was you that called and hung up he could've called you back to say that you were out of your mind...Does it not take less effort to dial a number, than to send a text message?
Author Pyrannaste Posted May 13, 2004 Author Posted May 13, 2004 I called him later in the morning and asked him why he wrote that text message.... so it turned out that I fell asleep yesterday night with my cell phone next to me....at 4.00 am I must have grabbed it in my sleep or pushed the cell phone keys in my sleep and it dialed the last numer I called.... which happened to be my bf's..... So he got a call from me at that awful time at night, he answered and there was no one on the phone line.....for I was sleeping..... no wonder he got pissed off! I apologized for what happened....guys I'm such an idiot at times. Misfortune is that this happened for the first time right now I'm having relationship problems.....I'm beginning to believe in bad luck! thanks to all who replied!!!
FreeMe Posted May 13, 2004 Posted May 13, 2004 It was an accident! If he's mad tell him to get over it!
Author Pyrannaste Posted May 13, 2004 Author Posted May 13, 2004 Sounds like he is not mad anymore now that I explained him what happened.
sportsloving Posted May 13, 2004 Posted May 13, 2004 Ugh, such a rotten thing to happen. Don't feel too terrible about it, lol, at least it gave you two a chance to talk ... and clear it up so that he knows what happened. That is much better than him thinking that at four am you have nothing better to do than prank call him
meanttolive4ever Posted May 13, 2004 Posted May 13, 2004 i always used to call my ex at 8 in the morning..sometimes he would get mad then sometimes he'd be happy
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