Oceana Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 Hello everyone, and thank you for reading this. My question for all of you women in long distance relationships (internet based mainly) is this; Say you get work late in the evening... you come home and rush to see your man and spend time with him online... but you find him hanging out with another woman. Now, say this occurs everyday for a period of time. Would you feel threatened? My man has been spending a lot of time with this girl every night until she decides to go to bed. When I am around them he seems to give her a lot of attention and he is really chatty and talkative with her. He will call me babe in front of her, but sometimes I feel like that is just to try to smooth it over with me. To me it also seems like there is mild flirting going on... for example. They played a game together that involved a race and she beat him. He told her, "That was a fluke! I declare a rematch right now. :)" Then, when it came to the rematch, "You're going down!" And she did the ":P" emote to indicate she was sticking her tongue out at him. This seems like mild flirting to me, but am I over-reacting? Please let me know, ladies. Would you feel threatened too? And what would you do in this situation? I've talked with him about it and he insists that they are only friends. I don't accuse him of cheating or anything, but I do tell him it makes me very uncomfortable. Thank you for reading!! ~Oceana
TokyoG33kyGal Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 if you really feel uncomfortable about it, state your boundaries with him and stick with it. boundaries are important in LDR since we don't really get to see what's going on with our SOs on a daily basis. if he dismisses your boundaries, then he might not have no respect for you.
Paper Roses Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 Doesn't sound like he has a whole lot of respect for you and doesn't care much if you get upset or not. I had/have a 5 year online relationship with a man which is coming to an end very soon. (Don't want to bore you with details). Does this guy call you on the phone? do you ever give him a chance to text YOU first? It may be "just" online but men like to be men. Let him chase you. That's what I'd do. Every time my online started acting jerky, I'd disappear. Every time he would come looking for me and start burning up my phone. He's playing with this girl right in front of you because you let him get away with it. Next time he wants to play around with her and ignore you, log off. That's what I'd do anyway and no, I would not feel threatened, I'd feel furious. And as far as my online guy calling another chick "babe" in front of me. Oh, no, no, no. The least he could do is do it behind your back. He's taking you for granted and if he won't let you stand up for yourself a little bit, he doesn't care. Hate to say it, but that's the way I see it. Don't hate the player, hate the game.
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