jordjones Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 When my most recent ex dumped me, she insisted that she hadn't moved on, even though I got the, "I love you, but I lost passion..." From her definition, moving on necessitated being involved with a new person. Yet, doesn't moving on have more to do with loss of interest? In regards to my ex ex, I had "moved on" even though I had not dated anyone exclusively. On a different but related note, what does one "move on" from? Is it the relationship, hopes of reconciliation, or the person? What if one "moves on" from a particular person, who after a decent amount of time, underwent a drastic personal transformation? Does "moving on" mean that one would not go back under any circumstances? Obviously there are cases where a person would never go back (after cheating, abuse, etc.); however, if the relationship was decent and ended in a place where there is mutual respect, does either party completely "move on"?
Eddie Edirol Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 Move on means "move on" from that particular person. People usually dont move backwards, because when she thought of you she would remember what she didnt like about you rather than how you changed. Youd have to wait years for her to see that you totally changed. When she moved to someone else, she found someone totally different than you.
A7X Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 When my ex broke up with me she told me that I needed to move on because she is moving on.. To this day I'm not sure what she meant by that but I can only assume that it means that she was moving on with her life and going to start seeing other ppl, and that was the case since the following week she was dating someone else. Now in my mind, this was already going on in the background before the breakup and that's what hurt the most out of all this. So "moving on" to me means they are moving forward with their life and not looking back. Sucks for the person that would do anything in the world for them but it's reality.
Diogenes Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 Usually it means they are moving on to the next guy, someone they've had their eye on for about six months.
aerogurl87 Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 Usually it means they are moving on to the next guy, someone they've had their eye on for about six months. Haha, that can be true. But I think it just means they are putting you out their mind and their life. It means "you don't mean anything to me anymore" basically.
TheDovic Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 It means she's trying to convince herself that it's over! DON'T LET HER!!! She's experiencing a lot of emotions at the moment i.e. she loves you but has lost the passion. By passion she means attraction by the way. She has lost attraction for you, as has my ex and most guys ex's on here. I don't know your situation but when they give us the old passion reason it's probably because you were a nice boyfriend who treated her really well and gave her everything she wanted. (Or maybe I'm wrong - but this behaviour is very typical on this site) But guess what??? WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO THIS! So... as I tell ALL the guys in our position dude, read David DeAngelo's "Attraction isn't a choice" and "Double your dating." Helped me understand what women are attracted to, what they aren't, and what I need to do to be attractive. All very simple stuff but EXTREMELY effective.
Diogenes Posted September 27, 2011 Posted September 27, 2011 When you get the speech it's pretty much too late, they are already out the door, they are just waiting for the cab...... Anything is possible, but when that fire is gone, it's gone elsewhere. I can't recall anytime in my entire 56 years a relationship of anyone I knew where the exwife or exgirlfriend didn't already have either someone in their sights or already onboard a good 3-6 months ahead of the speech. DeAngelo's stuff is great, but use it for you and the next woman. If it happens to have an effect on the Ex, in retrospect after the treatment you got would you really want them back?
TLCbear Posted September 28, 2011 Posted September 28, 2011 (edited) On a different but related note, what does one "move on" from? Is it the relationship, hopes of reconciliation, or the person? What if one "moves on" from a particular person, who after a decent amount of time, underwent a drastic personal transformation? Does "moving on" mean that one would not go back under any circumstances? Obviously there are cases where a person would never go back (after cheating, abuse, etc.); however, if the relationship was decent and ended in a place where there is mutual respect, does either party completely "move on"? To me, moving on is having no current existing feelings for that person. That person may always have a piece of your heart, such as your child's mother or father or maybe a first love, but it's not a current existing feeling. I know I have moved on when I do not care about the person anymore (or the feelings have moved to the back of my head), I can wish them the best (and really mean it), and can smile at about the good times we had shared (without being emotional). Edited September 28, 2011 by TLCbear
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